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I Am Ready When I Am Ready !

Last week was an emotional week for me, as I turned 25 in October it has been on everyone’s mind to tell me it is time to get married and have children. I always just tell people that I want to be married first before I have any children. Since my little sister is pregnant and my older brothers girlfriend is as well (they are due 3 weeks apart), it has been on everyones mind to tell me to start reproducing. All my siblings have children now.  My mom is down my neck about spending time with my kids before she dies as it was her birthday last week and it really put it home for her that she is getting older. As my other friends are getting married and or engaged I have other family telling me that its time to get married. It just really put me down because I felt no one respected my choice to not have kids yet or that I will not marry just anyone. I saw this quote on Pinterest and it really spoke to my spirit.

After looking at the quote for sometime I let everyone know that you may not to have agree with my methods but you will respect it and then I proceeded to tell people how I really felt. One of my wishes before having children would be to get married and get established with myself. Raising a child is hard work and it requires two parent team. I do not just want to have a child by some guy that I know who won’t be a good father to my child and that is what I really want in my child’s life is a good man. I am still on a journey to self discovery. By finding who I am and loving me I whole heartedly believe that I will become a better parent and wife in the long run. I love the last part of the quote “Give Birth To Yourself” that is so powerful to me. I can’t in good conscious create another life but I can give birth to someone I am proud of and hopefully my future children. 

To all the young men and woman that may be going through something similar in your life DO NOT let anyone pressure you to do something you do not want to do. Understand that it is your life and others should respect your choices on what to do with it. As I sit down and write this I feel 100% better that I know that I made the right choice in my life to not have children at this point and not marry someone who is not good for me or makes me happy.  Life is short do what you want to do live your life because it can be gone in a minute. 

 xOxO EbonyMonae xOxO 


 Give Birth to the person YOU are most happy with<3!!

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Confess Book Review

I recently finished reading the book Confess by Colleen Hoover.  Blown away does not even describe how I was feeling after reading this book. Colleen Hoover has such a way with words it is truly blessing.  As a reader she takes the reader to the place of her characters.  Owen and Auburn story was beautifully written.  It was detailed and connected in such away that leaves the reader memorized.  For my followers who likes to read please read this you will not be disappointed.

You can see my review on goodreads on the site below and also on here.

“I’ll love you forever. Even when I can’t.” “I’ll love you forever. Even when I shouldn’t” (ugly cry)

BLOWN AWAY!!! I LOVE COLLEEN HOOVER!! This woman has a way with words. She can make you feel everything her characters are feeling. I was laughing and crying throughout the book. Her characters pain were my pain. Owen bless his heart has been through so much in such a short amount of time. Auburn I loved how you fought for what you wanted at the end, for too long you let others walk all over you and disrespect you. This book moved me. I fell in love with the love they had for each other. She makes me believe in true love and the power it wields. Don’t want to give to much away, but please read this book you will not be disappointed.

This book was an amazing read. I finished it in one day. I am huge fan of your work. Every male character she writes about makes me fall in love with them. Keep writing please because I will read every book.

Happy Reading!!!!!!

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The Beauty Within

While out with with some friends last week I overheard a guy say to his friend “why are you talking to her she’s so ugly”. I waited to hear his response but he did not say anything in defense of her or himself. I turned to look at his face and he seemed embarrassed or even ashamed. 

This really upset me because a lot of people look at the surface instead of delving deeper. As a girl and even a young woman I still struggle with self image. Self acceptance is a major obstacle in my life. Growing up my mother would constantly put down my looks or my intellect basically anything that she didn’t like. 

I did not know this guy or the woman. But hearing that really made me think about if someone said that about me. It angers me because so many look at the appearance of a person. What truly matters is what is on the inside. This girl could really have a good heart yet he chooses to look at her outside appearance. I understand everyone is attracted to different things.

To all the people that suffer from self image know that true beauty comes from within. If the beauty that lies within matches the outside then you are truly beautiful. Don’t let others make you feel anything less than beautiful because how they see you should never matter. Take it from a young woman who is traveling this journey. 

What is truly ugly is others that seem the need to place looks above everything else. My nana use to say “just because it glitters, doesn’t mean it’s gold”. I truly believe in that statement. 

💜XoXo EbonyMonae💜 


Remember true beauty will always come from withing😘

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A Mason Jar of Wisdom💗

A classmate of mines gave me this it’s a mason jar full of quotes. Once a day you pull one out and you apply it to your day. I thought this was so sweet of her to do this. When your in school full time and work full time plus a part time job life can get pretty overwhelming. The quotes in here really get me through a day. I have even added some of my favorite quotes. 

All you need is a mason jar and your favorite quotes. This will come in handy when you least at expect it.  So why not create one. 

XoXo EbonyMonae 

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Spirit Month 😋!!


I can’t believe that its the third month in the new year. Time is flying by quickly it seems. With that being said lets remember our promises we made to ourselves in the beginning of the new year. As I mentioned before every month I will do something different or something for me to work on. This month its SPIRIT month. I remember when I was in high school and for a whole week we did different activities such as pajama day, mix match day, where your favorite color day. I want to try to do something like this once a week for the whole month.

I searched for different Ideas. This week its International Pancake Day. So I was thinking of eating nothing put Pancakes on Wednesday. IHOP has them for free all day long. So I am trying to eat for FREE. The calories in those things will be astronomical. With that beginning said I have recommitted myself to working out more this month and doing more cardio. I do not know how I will fit it in my schedule but I will somehow.

I also want to do an 80’s themed day. I will wear 80’s clothing plus listen to nothing but music for that period (ohh gosh).  I want to wear my favorite color one week, from head to toe everything has to be purple even my underthings. Show my school pride day where I wear all things Panther Pride(great day for me to get those things since I’m graduating and I don’t have them). I have so many ideas, maybe an pajama day too.

I have not decided how I want to go about doing this either I will post everyday that I do it or I will post at the end of the month with pictures and some descprition about that day.

It is the beginning of a new month. Lets be grateful we are living. Lets LOVE MORE this month. Be kind to others. Lets go forth in this month and do the things we are afraid to do. Lets have an amazing month because we are amazing people.

xOxO EbonyMonae