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Deeply Saddened yet Deeply Moved

Good morning guys. Its been a while since I have written. To be honest I have been going some mild depression. I am managing my depression now with the help of my therapist and psychiatrist so I’m on a road to recovery to being my best self I can be, but that will be a story for another day.

Today I want to talk about how shocked I am about what happened on Tuesday. I still am in shock. I am angered by the pure hatred I have seen on social media. On top of that I am overwhelmed by the amount 0f love and support I have also seen.

Tuesday I had to unfriend a few people on my social media accounts. They were people who I knew from my childhood. One thing I learned from Tuesday was that who you thought you knew, you really didn’t know that well after all. On Tuesday I learned that racism, discrimination, misogyny, homophobia were not deal breakers for people. I also saw humanity at its best. 

People have told me that I should just get over it Trump won. People told me that its just four years.  One thing I won’t be is SILENT. One thing I have learned is that Silence = Compliance. I am not silent about the things that matter to me. I won’t stay quiet when racism is running rampant. I have friends and family of different faiths, sexual orientations and creeds. I will fight for them. I will help take downs walls that people have built and if in that four years I have children I will raise them to do the same.

EbonY Monae

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I don’t mind differnces of opinions but, I do mind hate. 

                        -Anonymous

 

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Black Lives Matter✊🏾✊🏾


Everyone had something to say after his speech. People didn’t like it calling it hate speech on cops. Then last week two black men where killed by police officers and it was  gruesomely recorded for the world to see. 

I saw this speech live the moment I heard it, it gave me goosebumps because everything he said was true. 

No one knows what it’s like to be black in this country. Before  mothers was scared to let there black son’s walk out the house. Now mothers are scared to let there daughters and sons walk out the house. Never have I been scared to be black. Growing up I would hear stores from my grandmother who grew up in the south during Jim Crow. In 2016 my generation is going through the same thing her generation went through. 

It’s time that we take a stand. Even if we have to get arrested. It time we take a stand. Put you actions where your mouth is. We have to have a country that treats us with dignity and respect. 

We didn’t ask for this. We didn’t ask to be murdered so carelessly. I have seen people treat a gorilla with more dignity than a black person. No longer will I be silent. Together we can make a difference peacefully. Together we can make a change. 

Black and Proud✊🏾

Ebony Monae

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WE WILL HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS IN  OUR OWN COUNTRY OR WE WILL RESTRUCTURE THIER  FUNCTION IN OURS!!!!  

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So Good!

Good Morning!!  I hope this post finds you guys in great spirits and if not I hope I can cheer you up.

“……..Wasn’t it you that said
That I wouldn’t make it through
And wasn’t it you that said
That I didn’t look too good, that I wouldn’t do too good
I’d never make it out the ‘hood
I want you to know that I’m doin’ so good………….”

Above is the some lyrics from Destiny Child song “So Good”. I heard this song when I was younger but back then it was just a song with a good beat. Now I understand it. All my life people have told me that I wouldn’t be very much. Wouldn’t amount to very much. Told me that I would be just another statistic.

People will say awful things about you. People will belittle and put you down. Don’t listen to them. Keep pushing ahead. Now I am a college graduate. I live on my own. I work two jobs. And I would say I am a little bit of a world traveler.

My point to you is that don’t let other peoples words determine what you make of yourself. Your life is your life. Do something amazing with it. Do something that people never thought you would with it.

So Good,

Ebony Monae

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Speak positively over your life!!

 

 

 

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Educating Ignorant People! 

I wrote a post similar to this when I first started my blog, “Being Called a White Girl When Your Very a Much Black Woman”. It saddens me that I have to write another one because people are not understanding how ignorant they are! 

I am not a “white girl”. I am a beautiful African American Woman.  I am sick and tired of black men and woman saying that I’m not.  That is an igonorant statement to make.   

STOP putting a label on me. You calling me a “white girl” makes it seems like my African American side is nonexistent. The sad part is people think it’s okay to say that to your face. Then they have the nerve to get all worked up and upset when you let them know about themselves. Don’t tell me to relax. That angers me and I’m going to call you out on it. Let’s get one thing straight; I AM A BLACK WOMAN! 

Tell me what is a black girl? What is a white girl? Society thinks that black girls snap there necks and talk uneducatedly. Whereas white girls talk very proper they say “like” a lot. News flash everyone is different. There are white girls that’s listen to hard core rap and black girls that love Taylor Swift. Doesn’t make us less of black girl or them more of a black girl. 

My friend asked me why does this bother me? Why do you care what others think? I had to think on that and reflect. I have been called that my whole life. From an early age my own ethnic group has labeled me such. It bothers me because at that young age I couldn’t say anything but now being a grown woman I can and I will. I will stick up for those other woman who has been labeled as such. 

Finally, just because I don’t act how you think a black woman should act gives you no right to say that to me. Does not give you the right to ostracize me. At the end of the day I am a Black Woman and I’m PROUD!! 

Beautiful Melanin, 

Ebony Monae 💜🙋🏾 

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In life you will meet ignorant people know the difference of when to educate and when to walk away because some people will never learn. 

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Know Your Worth!

  
R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!! 

 Hunny have respect for yourself. LOVE yourself. Do not let anyone put you down, make you feel worthless. You are beautiful! You are amazing! You are NOT what they said you are! The basis for all relationships is RESPECT. 

Lauren Hill, she is just a beautiful soul. Take her words to heart. If she/he doesn’t respect you, then they don’t DESERVE you! I can attest to this. I been through it. I let them do that to me. In the end I learned myself worth. I learned that,  NO you will not speak to me that way. NO you will not put me down, make me feel inferior. The day I said NO I started living for ME! 

Furthermore do not go by what you see on TV. Nowadays you see these woman on these reality shows that let these men make them look like a fool. They have no respect for there relationships or the woman they are dating. Do Not be taken for a fool for any man/women that do not know how to be in a healthy and stable relationship! It’s not cute or healthy to be treated like that. Know Your Worth! 

Lastly, it’s okay to be alone. Don’t be afraid of being alone. There is beauty in growing and learning about yourself. Don’t be disrespected. Don’t stand for that. I understand it’s not easy to walk a way, but understand this there is beauty in walking away! 

Giving it to you Straight, 

EbonyMonae💜

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Working on ME💜

  
I posted this to remind everyone we are a work in PROGRESS!  We are changing everyday. We are fighting battles people no nothing about! I know that I am trying everyday to be a better person than yesterday.! Who can relate? 

To a person that’s struggling this message is for you. Change comes over time. Not in a instant!  If your working at it you will see change. I whole heartedly believe that if you put in the work change will come. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF! You are not perfect no one is but if you strive to make a difference in yourself you will see change. I hope this message reaches you and encourages you! 

Much Love, 

Ebony Monae 

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Don’t forget we are only human we will make mistakes! 

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Happy Tuesday! 

Hey guys. Happy Tuesday. It’s a new week. Let’s strive to be that person we know we can be. Let’s be better then we were yesterday.  My favorite quote now is “have courage and be kind!” That’s from the Cinderella movie. I got a chance to rewatch it this weekend with my little brother and sister. I just loved that quote. It just speaks to you. You may never know who would need that kindness you put forth. So this week be kind to others. It can change there whole life! 

Have courage. Do the things you thought you can not do. Don’t let the devil steal that from you. Believe in yourself. Someone once told me you are your own worst critic. I know that to be true. Because I am constantly putting myself down. It has to end sometime. Why not today? So let’s do all the things others and ourselves said we can not do! 

Having Courage and Kindness 

Ebony Monae💜

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I really hope we all be a little more kinder to others. And have ALOT more courage to do the things we thought we can not. 

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💜Life Changing Moment💜

Good Morning. I wanted to post this Sunday when arrived back from Houston but I was tired and my hand was aching, still is for that matter my hand is in a splint. I apologize already for any misspelled words. So on to the good stuff.

On Sunday March 13th I had a life changing experience.  I have written in the past how I have struggled with direction in my life. What I have not disclosed is how I struggle with my faith. I was always the one that tiptoed into Christianity. Never fully committing because I did not understand it. How people can have so much faith? How someone you never met can have so much control over your life?  I never understood when people say Jesus changed my life or Jesus saved me. I just felt like how can that be. Until Sunday March 13th. 

Sunday March 13th I felt Gods presence. I felt his love for me. I felt his forgiveness. I don’t know if I am explaining it right but I felt his amazing love for me. Me? Someone who always tiptoed in my faith and Christanity. Someone whose faith was smaller than a mustard seed. Someone worst than a sinner. 

March 13th T.D Jakes said a prayer over my life. He spoke about how God takes people like Abraham and Jacobs. You see Jacob didn’t have a clean past. As pastor TD Jakes put it he was a “stutter”.  Messed up over and over in his life. But God still took him and used him. Such as Moses. Moses was a murderer but God used him to lead the Israelites out of Egypt.
Sitting in the stands at LakeWood Church surround by my love ones I felt such a calling on my life. Pastor T.D Jakes also spoke about how we all have a purpose in our life. I mentioned before in a previous post that I was struggling with that. Struggling with direction. Feeling lost. Pastor T.D Jakes put everything into perspective for me. “God has a plan for your life. Everything you have been through is a shadow of what’s to come. Remember where there are shadows there is always light. It will take time for you to understand your full purpose and destiny in life.”

Who knew that on this day I would be in the audience receiving that particular message. I came to Houston for a baby dedication for a friends son. I didn’t even know Pastor T.D Jakes would be there until I met up with everyone to go to Church that morning.
As I sit and write this post I can say I am at peace. I have never known such peace in my life. My mind is always running. Always thinking of the next step. Planning and when plans don’t go right then I am replanning. My mind is at peace. My spirit is at peace. I’m not thinking of tomorrow. I am just at peace. I can say at that this moment I have direction. I know God has a purpose for my life and he won’t lead me astray. 

Finally at Peace, 

Ebony Monae💜

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Lord I pray that whoever reads this post will find direction in there life. I pray that you watch over them and guide them. Thank you lord for never giving up on me. For loving me unconditionally. I pray that your next direction in my life will be greater than the last. In your name I pray. Amen

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Lol here are some snap chat videos lol! 

   
  

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Breaking The Mold!!

In honor of International Women’s Day!

This quote is so inspiring to me. I have a three beautiful smart nieces. As I think about them as I type this post. I want them to have more opportunities then I ever had. I came to the realization that it starts at a young age to empower them to be strong, brave and courageous. It all starts with them. In a speech by fellow feminist Emma Watson she states “….it will take 75 years for a woman to be paid the same as men.” 75 years? What saddens me the most; is that I most likely won’t be around to see it! What I do know is that it starts with the next generation of woman and that’s our daughters, nieces, granddaughters and cousins. We have to teach them to be strong. To fight for women’s rights. To never give up. TO BREAK GLASS CEILINGS. 

Happy International Women’s Day! Lets all celebrate this day because WE HAVE EARNED IT!! 

Teaching Young Girls of Tomorrow,

Ebony Monae