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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜 

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What Is It Like?

What Is It Like To Be You? 

Morning!

Last night I was watching the ending of the movie The Help. Which is a good movie by the way. I hope you have seen it. Well in the movie Viola Davis character stated,  “No one ever asked me what is it like to be me?”

That profound statement stuck to me. What is it like to be you? BE ME? I would think that I had some profound answer to this question but honestly I do not. You know why? Because I never asked myself that question.

To my readers what is it like to be you? Do you have any profound answers? I would love to know. Leave a comment please and thank you. One thing I would suggest is to be honest with yourself. Sometimes truth hurts but it can also make you realize a lot of things in your life.

As always Be Inspired<3

-E

ps,

“You is smart, you is kind, you is important!”

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Be Selfish! 

Good Morning loves. Hope my post finds you doing amazingly well. If not I hope my post cheers you up.   

I will be twenty seven this up coming October. Twenty freaking seven. One thing that stuck out to me was that I still had a lot of time to BE SELFISH!!!!!! 

Lately I just felt like I don’t give myself enough time for me. If I’m not working I’m being pulled in this direction to that direction. I came to realize that it’s okay to say no I just want this time for me. To grow. To explore.  It’s okay to do just that. You know why? Because it’s your life to do with it as you please. 

It’s okay to be selfish with your time because it’s all about bettering you and doing things you have never done. 

Do something amazing with your time. Do something  you have never done but always wanted to. Explore new places. Meet new people. Dabble in this and that or don’t. It’s all up to you. 

I recently saw this clip on fb and it was from divorce court. It stood out to me because a lot of us put up with way to much shit from our signicant others. I felt it tied in to what I was saying. Watch the clip and “Fire any dude who don’t act right”

 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iw7-vfXQJ20

As always Be Amazing, Be Beautiful and Be Vibrant💜 

Ebony Monae

ps, 

Be selfish💗

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Do Something with Soul💜

Morning Sunshines☀️. I hope my post finds you in a great spirit this morning. 


Meraki. I love this word. Who can say they doing something with there soul and love it? Me I do. 🙋🏾 Who can say they leave a piece of themselves behind in everything that they do? 🙋🏾 Oh me again. 

My blog is my Meraki. When I saw this word I was like do I have anything like it describes. Then I thought of this baby. I have been writing my blog for almost two years now. This is all my creativity. This is my heart. This is what I am going to leave behind when I die. This is a piece of me. This is a glimpse into my jumbled crazy life. This is my dream to inspire the uninspired. To help those that need that little bit of encouragement. Every time I write a post I’m putting myself out there either to be laughed at or loved. The thing is I do it. I let my creativity flow. 

My point is this morning find your Meraki. Find something that gives your life meaning. Find something that makes your soul sing. If you have something you love doing continue to do it. Continue to let your creativity flow. 

On a Journey to Discovery💜

EbonyMonae 

ps, 

Life is beautiful once you find something that gives it meaning. 

      -Ebony Monae 

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🌻Here’s To The Free Spirit In All Of Us🌻

Ever wondered what a free spirit is? Well that’s the definition above. How many of us can relate to that? I know I can. For a long time I just assumed I didn’t fit in. I came to realize that I was not born to. Once I begin accepting me for me no one could tell me anything. I love myself. I’m comfortable in my own skin. 
Let out your free spirit. Don’t let society’s opinions hinder your beliefs or values. BE YOU!! Once we stop caring of others opinions we will be free to live the life we want. 

Have a great day my loves. Break the mold. Be free. BE YOU! 

Free and Proud, 

Ebony Monae 

ps, 

Live a life nonconformity

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💜 Yourself

Good Morning. Happy Monday Loves.

Today is the day for you to start loving yourself. It’s vital that YOU love yourself. No one will love you more than you.

You may want to be more light skin. Have a bigger butt. Bigger lips. Want that thigh gap that everyone is so crazy about. Let me remind you are perfectly beautiful. I believe that if you change one thing about yourself that is very drastic your going to keep changing more things about yourself.

If it comes down to it and you don’t like what you look like.  Start off with something that you can change. Drop those extra pounds thats hanging around. Change up your sense of style. Sometimes we wear clothes that don’t flatter our body types. These little changes add up to BIG changes.

Loving Myself Always,

Ebony Monae

ps,

God made you a masterpiece. Start seeing yourself strong, healthy, accomplishing your dreams and living an abundant life. 

 

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Take OFF the Mask🎭

It’s time to take off the mask. Time to reveal to the world who you really are. Don’t hide your true self any longer. 

Do you understand what I am saying? Show the world who you are. It saddens me when people hide themselves for fear of being judged. Hunny you get one shot at the this. Live your LIFE!! Do not live for others opinions. Today a coworker told me that his friend won’t speak Spanish because of fear of people hearing it. Whats sad about this he is Hispanic. Thats hiding yourself. This person grew up in an Hispanic household yet the fear of judgment keeps him from speaking his native tongue. 

My advice to anyone who is wearing a mask. Take it off. Hiding yourself for others is the equivalent of silencing your soul. I whole heartedly believe to do anything in this world you have got to have a sense of self. If you hide your true self than you won’t accomplish much. 

My Mask is Off, 

Ebony Monae 

ps, 

Life. What does it mean to you? Ask yourself that.

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Single and OKAY With It! 

Happy 🐫 Day! 

Today lets talk about being single. Have you ever told someone that your single and they give you the look like what’s wrong with you? Or the look of pity.  Honestly I hate those freaking looks. I also hate the “let’s set you up with someone” line. I think that is so rude. Your basically telling me that there is something wrong with being single. I understand your heart might be in the right place. There is this stigma around being single. Oh wait there’s more being a “black woman” and single is the worst. I swear black men look at me like I am crazy or something. It’s like have a sign on my forward saying “she’s black and single she must be crazy”. That’s not even the case. 

Bottoms line there is nothing wrong with be single. There is nothing wrong with be one with yourself. Being in a relationship requires a lot of time and energy. Don’t be in a relationship if your not ready. 

I am okay with being single. Don’t get me wrong it bothers me when I am the fifth wheel when I go out with my friends (two of my friends are married). It bothers me not having that person waiting on the other end to cheer you up after a long day at work. It bothers me when I have no date to the movies so I go alone. Noticed I stated it “bothers me”. It’s not the end of the world. I will be okay. Why? Because I know God has an amazing man set aside for me. I trust that when the time is right God will reveal him to me. 

Being single is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. Take this time to know what you want. Take this time to work on yourself. Take this time to discover new things. Take this time to be happy! Again there is nothing wrong with being single! 

Happily Single, 

Ebony Monae 💘 

ps, 

Being single is not a status but a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life WITHOUT depending on others💕

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Your Worth It💜

Happy Monday my loves. Another week is upon us. Another week for you to be the best that you can be. Another week to make mistakes. Another week to grow and learn. 

Today I want you to know you are WORTH IT! In life you will meet people who will make you feel like you are not worth anything, but understand that you are! 

Those people are toxic and you don’t need toxic people. Think of yourself as a garden. You put healthy soil and mulch in there right? Well consider that as your positive people. The people who are there for you, are your strongest relationships. You water your garden right? Well consider that as you lifting yourself up everyday. Your encouraging yourself. In your garden you will add the wrong pesticides that will hurt your garden. Notice I said hurt not kill. Once it’s removed your garden will grow again.  If you continue to feed yourself with postitive people and daily encouragement. Hunny no one can tell you anything.   

Life is beautiful if your living for you! Don’t let other people define who you are. Define your own worth! 

Much Love, 

Ebony Monae, 

ps, 

Don’t expect to see positive change in your life if your surround yourself with negative people! 

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Life Is Beautiful! 

Today I learned that one of my former residents passed away. She was only 26 years old. She left behind a young son. Despite what was going on in her life she was extremely upbeat and always kept you smiling. 

I got in this this feild to make an impact on there life, but in the end they made an impact on my life. Thank you for teaching me it’s okay to smile and be happy despite what’s going in my life. Thank you for teaching me that I can always strive to be better than I who I was yesterday. 

You will be forever be missed. Your personality was so big that everyone knew when you walked in the room. May god continue to watch over your son and your family. 

When my residents leave from my job I don’t think of them dying. I’m just  wishing that they leave better then when they arrived. That I impacted there life as much as they did mines. Death shows a person that life is beautiful. That life is also short! 

Saddened by Loss, 

Ebony Monae 

ps, 

Life is beautiful, live it before it’s gone💖