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Accepting Myself 💕

Hey Loves,

This week I want us to practice acceptance of ourselves. This post is one of the realist ones I have written. I feel it’s time to.

This is me in 2011 at the age of 21.

You wouldn’t know it but I am struggling with body acceptance in this photo. I thought I was fat. I thought I was ugly. I wouldn’t never have my hair natural it had to be permed and blown silky straight.

Now this is the most recent full body photo I have. This was September 2017 at the age of 27.

This photo I am still struggling with body acceptance. I let go of some misconceptions I had about myself. I LOVE my natural hair. I don’t ever have it straightened unless I feel like it. I struggle to see the beauty in myself at times.

I struggle with acceptance of my body. Growing up it was hard. I fully believe loving oneself starts at home where your more comfortable with family. It was not like that for me. I was more developed up top than most girls. My mother would always bring that to my attention and put me down for it like I could control my genetics. She would buy me big shirts to

hide my breast and make me where them. I had to listen to negative comments about myself and my weight. Hearing negative thoughts all your childhood has great impact on who your are in your adulthood.

I’m at a age where I can’t blame my mother for it any longer. I understand it’s time for me to accept me for me. But it’s so damn hard.

Today I want to encourage men and woman to love you for you. I know it’s not easy but start small. Here’s some tips I suggest:

  1. Have your friends text you encouraging words everyday.
  2. Download Pinterest and find uplifting and encouraging wallpapers for your phone that you like.
  3. Have a mirror and a dry erase marker? If you do, write some encouraging words to yourself.
  4. Have post it’s and a sharpie? Leave stickies in hidden places so you can find them randomly.

Gabby quote is so inspiring. It’s time we love our bodies💜

One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body. I got tired of hating myself. < em> -Gabourey Sidibe Let’s begin the journey of self acceptance together. It’s going to rough road but I am ready. Are You?!?

XoXo 😘,

EM

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Inspiring Others💜

Morning loves,

Today I am a little bit more upbeat, than I have been these last few days.

Sometimes I meet people who think that there lives won’t ever inspire others. Hell even I think that but we forget that whatever we are going through can help someone. That roadblock you were on and got through, can inspire someone to get through there’s. That new job you were scared to go after but Finally Did. Can inspire someone to follow there dreams. That bad breakup you got over when you didn’t think you could but DID. Can inspire someone else.

So don’t think your story can’t inspire others because it can and to myself baby girl your story can inspire the masses to so don’t you forget that. (Sometimes in need that pep talk too💜)

Inspiring Others 💜,

EM

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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜 

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Don’t You Worry!! 

Morning loves,

If your anything like me your always worrying about tomorrow. My advice to you, DON’T. This quote somes it all up perfectly. What’s coming will come. Don’t worry about it. Everything will fall into place. Live your life in the meantime. Tackle everything as it comes. 

Hope your practicing self-care this month and just honoring thy self💜.

-E

ps, 

Let go and let God. 

 

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Millennial with a Budget!

Good Morning. Happy Tuesday. 

All month long is self care month for me. Taking care of yourself is essential. Follow my Instagram be_inspired_by_ebony for daily posts. I may not post up here everyday but I’m always on IG with quotes and life skills. 

Continuing on with self care month. I’m working on creating a budget and spending within my means. I have noticed that my spending is getting way out of control. I used the Mint App to really help me understand my spending. For this month I have sat down and planned all my bills in my planner. With the holiday season upon I us I want to be extra careful of my spending now to make sure I get gifts for my familia. 

My top points on budgeting is as follows:

1.Arrange all your bills for the month. If you have a planner. (I also right my payday down as well.It’s helpful for me.) Ex:

2.One thing that helps me is when I get paid I try to write down everything that needs to get paid so I know how much I have left to spend on things I need. I also have a savings account set up where it automatically takes out funds as well. Right now it’s $20 every week (judge free zone guys cuz it is way better than what I was putting before, which was nothing.) Ex:

3. Next thing I try to do is watch what I’m spending my money on. I have to ask myself “Ebony do you need this?”Or “is this worth the price?” Personally I’m a sucker for hair care products and shoes. I have to remind myself that if I don’t need it, I shouldn’t get it. 

Some facts to consider:

  • 69% of American have less than $1,000 in savings. 
  • 34% have no savings. 
  • Milleninals are spending more than they make (living above there means). 
  • 74% of milleninals have less than $1,000 in there savings. 
  • 31% have zero. 
  • Ideally you would want six months worth of living expenses saved up. 

This website contains more information. It’s where I got my sources from. http://finance.yahoo.com/news/heres-much-average-millennial-savings-182226193.html

My goal is to be mindful of my spending and to have money for a rainy day. If you have any suggestions or ideas on how to save please comment and let me know. I would love to hear. 

Stay Blessed, 

ps, 

A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went. 

                            -Dave Ramsey

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Happy December!!


I can’t believe this year has flew past so quickly. I can tell you that I have deff been slacking off with my blogging last month and I’m so sorry about that. I had my hands full with everything. I have some great things planned for next year I will say.  I hope all my readers are doing amazing. 

The inspiration for this month is to do something you promised yourself that you were going to do all year long and you didn’t. It could be simple as read two books or more daring like go on a date. Do this for yourself you won’t be sorry I promise. 

I can tell you that I am working on self-care and financial health for this month. Most likely it will be in my New Years resolution as well. Those are the main things I feel I need to work on. Now self-care for me includes everything from healthy eating, staying with my facial routine, attending my therapy appointments and doing the things I love. What’s yours? 

This month I really want you guys to do something you didn’t do this year that you promised yourself. Leave a comment on this post I would love to hear about it. 

Ebony Monae💗

ps, 

“Make yourself a priority once in awhile. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.”  

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Deeply Saddened yet Deeply Moved

Good morning guys. Its been a while since I have written. To be honest I have been going some mild depression. I am managing my depression now with the help of my therapist and psychiatrist so I’m on a road to recovery to being my best self I can be, but that will be a story for another day.

Today I want to talk about how shocked I am about what happened on Tuesday. I still am in shock. I am angered by the pure hatred I have seen on social media. On top of that I am overwhelmed by the amount 0f love and support I have also seen.

Tuesday I had to unfriend a few people on my social media accounts. They were people who I knew from my childhood. One thing I learned from Tuesday was that who you thought you knew, you really didn’t know that well after all. On Tuesday I learned that racism, discrimination, misogyny, homophobia were not deal breakers for people. I also saw humanity at its best. 

People have told me that I should just get over it Trump won. People told me that its just four years.  One thing I won’t be is SILENT. One thing I have learned is that Silence = Compliance. I am not silent about the things that matter to me. I won’t stay quiet when racism is running rampant. I have friends and family of different faiths, sexual orientations and creeds. I will fight for them. I will help take downs walls that people have built and if in that four years I have children I will raise them to do the same.

EbonY Monae

ps, 

I don’t mind differnces of opinions but, I do mind hate. 

                        -Anonymous

 

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Friday’s Inspiration

I’m one of those people that always compare my life to someone’s else. I do it all the time. Especially now that I will be turning 27 on Tuesday so I’m comparing my life to others around me. 

I have to constantly remind myself that God has a plan for my life.  It may not be what I want but it’s what he wants. 
To anyone struggling with this. Take it one day out a time. Don’t compare your life to others. Know that God has something amazing instore for your life. 

XoXo,

Ebony Monae 

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Grace💖


Good Morning. I hope your Monday is off to an amazing start. 

Ohh before I begin. Let’s celebrate Indigenous People Day!! 

Today I want you to choose grace. I want you to choose kindness and love. Life is hard and people are cruel but we don’t have to be like others. We can choose Grace like god gives us Grace. So choose GRACE💖

✨Ebony Monae✨

ps, 

She has fire in her soul 

And

Grace in her Heart💖