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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜 

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Don’t You Worry!! 

Morning loves,

If your anything like me your always worrying about tomorrow. My advice to you, DON’T. This quote somes it all up perfectly. What’s coming will come. Don’t worry about it. Everything will fall into place. Live your life in the meantime. Tackle everything as it comes. 

Hope your practicing self-care this month and just honoring thy self💜.

-E

ps, 

Let go and let God. 

 

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Millennial with a Budget!

Good Morning. Happy Tuesday. 

All month long is self care month for me. Taking care of yourself is essential. Follow my Instagram be_inspired_by_ebony for daily posts. I may not post up here everyday but I’m always on IG with quotes and life skills. 

Continuing on with self care month. I’m working on creating a budget and spending within my means. I have noticed that my spending is getting way out of control. I used the Mint App to really help me understand my spending. For this month I have sat down and planned all my bills in my planner. With the holiday season upon I us I want to be extra careful of my spending now to make sure I get gifts for my familia. 

My top points on budgeting is as follows:

1.Arrange all your bills for the month. If you have a planner. (I also right my payday down as well.It’s helpful for me.) Ex:

2.One thing that helps me is when I get paid I try to write down everything that needs to get paid so I know how much I have left to spend on things I need. I also have a savings account set up where it automatically takes out funds as well. Right now it’s $20 every week (judge free zone guys cuz it is way better than what I was putting before, which was nothing.) Ex:

3. Next thing I try to do is watch what I’m spending my money on. I have to ask myself “Ebony do you need this?”Or “is this worth the price?” Personally I’m a sucker for hair care products and shoes. I have to remind myself that if I don’t need it, I shouldn’t get it. 

Some facts to consider:

  • 69% of American have less than $1,000 in savings. 
  • 34% have no savings. 
  • Milleninals are spending more than they make (living above there means). 
  • 74% of milleninals have less than $1,000 in there savings. 
  • 31% have zero. 
  • Ideally you would want six months worth of living expenses saved up. 

This website contains more information. It’s where I got my sources from. http://finance.yahoo.com/news/heres-much-average-millennial-savings-182226193.html

My goal is to be mindful of my spending and to have money for a rainy day. If you have any suggestions or ideas on how to save please comment and let me know. I would love to hear. 

Stay Blessed, 

ps, 

A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went. 

                            -Dave Ramsey

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Happy December!!


I can’t believe this year has flew past so quickly. I can tell you that I have deff been slacking off with my blogging last month and I’m so sorry about that. I had my hands full with everything. I have some great things planned for next year I will say.  I hope all my readers are doing amazing. 

The inspiration for this month is to do something you promised yourself that you were going to do all year long and you didn’t. It could be simple as read two books or more daring like go on a date. Do this for yourself you won’t be sorry I promise. 

I can tell you that I am working on self-care and financial health for this month. Most likely it will be in my New Years resolution as well. Those are the main things I feel I need to work on. Now self-care for me includes everything from healthy eating, staying with my facial routine, attending my therapy appointments and doing the things I love. What’s yours? 

This month I really want you guys to do something you didn’t do this year that you promised yourself. Leave a comment on this post I would love to hear about it. 

Ebony Monae💗

ps, 

“Make yourself a priority once in awhile. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.”  

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Deeply Saddened yet Deeply Moved

Good morning guys. Its been a while since I have written. To be honest I have been going some mild depression. I am managing my depression now with the help of my therapist and psychiatrist so I’m on a road to recovery to being my best self I can be, but that will be a story for another day.

Today I want to talk about how shocked I am about what happened on Tuesday. I still am in shock. I am angered by the pure hatred I have seen on social media. On top of that I am overwhelmed by the amount 0f love and support I have also seen.

Tuesday I had to unfriend a few people on my social media accounts. They were people who I knew from my childhood. One thing I learned from Tuesday was that who you thought you knew, you really didn’t know that well after all. On Tuesday I learned that racism, discrimination, misogyny, homophobia were not deal breakers for people. I also saw humanity at its best. 

People have told me that I should just get over it Trump won. People told me that its just four years.  One thing I won’t be is SILENT. One thing I have learned is that Silence = Compliance. I am not silent about the things that matter to me. I won’t stay quiet when racism is running rampant. I have friends and family of different faiths, sexual orientations and creeds. I will fight for them. I will help take downs walls that people have built and if in that four years I have children I will raise them to do the same.

EbonY Monae

ps, 

I don’t mind differnces of opinions but, I do mind hate. 

                        -Anonymous

 

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Friday’s Inspiration

I’m one of those people that always compare my life to someone’s else. I do it all the time. Especially now that I will be turning 27 on Tuesday so I’m comparing my life to others around me. 

I have to constantly remind myself that God has a plan for my life.  It may not be what I want but it’s what he wants. 
To anyone struggling with this. Take it one day out a time. Don’t compare your life to others. Know that God has something amazing instore for your life. 

XoXo,

Ebony Monae 

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Grace💖


Good Morning. I hope your Monday is off to an amazing start. 

Ohh before I begin. Let’s celebrate Indigenous People Day!! 

Today I want you to choose grace. I want you to choose kindness and love. Life is hard and people are cruel but we don’t have to be like others. We can choose Grace like god gives us Grace. So choose GRACE💖

✨Ebony Monae✨

ps, 

She has fire in her soul 

And

Grace in her Heart💖

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Be Positive  

Morning 💜 

Happy Thursday. 

Today I want you to say something positive about yourself. I noticed that I am a very negative person when it comes to myself. I never uplift myself. 

So today uplift yourself. Say something positive. For me it will be that I am persistent. I never give up even when I want to. 

You can write it on a post it to remind yourself that your amazing when you feel like your not. 

Comment and let me know what your positives are. I would love to read them. 

Xoxo, 

Ebony 💜 
ps,

Be positive💜

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This is Your Life, Own It💖

Mawning  loves. It’s a rainy Wednesday here in NY but I’m thankful and blessed. I hope my post finds you guys in a good mood this morning. If not I hope my post cheers you up<3. 

This quote above describes what I kind of been feeling lately. It reminded me my life was own personally story. I’m learning to write my story for me. For a few days now I was in that stage where I’m just lost in the abyss not knowing what direction to take in life. I had to realize it’s my life. I can take any direction in life I want to. I can edit and remove anything I want to. 

I always get like this when I see a friend getting married or having a child. I have to understand that my life can’t take that on right now. I have to trust my choices and trust my story. 

If your going through this in your life, understand it’s your life. People you know are at different places in life, but so are you. It’s okay to make mistakes and take wrong turns it’s life. Trust your story your writing. 

Ebony Monae, 

ps, 

We are what we believe we are! 

                               C.S. Lewis