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The Aftermath

Afternoon loves,

Yesterday I didn’t get a chance to blog because I was at the funeral with my friends. When I tell you it was the hardest day in my life, I’m not joking. When my friends cried over there son it broke my heart because you could feel there pain. I never want to hear or witness pain like that in my life.

All week I was racked with quilt because I felt like I couldn’t help her. As I sit and type this it finally hit home that I can help her. I can be there for them while they grieve there son. I found a great quote that I feel helps with grief.

It’s going to be a while before they start the healing process. I want you to know. I will sit there and hold you while you cry. What your both going through has to be the most painful thing in the world. Know your not alone.

When your ready to start the healing process I will be there too. For a long time I struggled with the things that happened to me. I didn’t understand it. Why did God pick me. I am now coming to the realization that God picked me because he has a purpose for my pain. He has a purpose for me and I believe that is to help others. Guide others.

We go through some of the darkest days of our lives. During the storm we don’t see the light but we do come through it. And we are stronger than before. I know your in your storm right now but know that God has a purpose for your pain.

Anyone that’s reading this. The same applies to you. Trust in him. Trust his purpose for your life.

EM💜

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Sorrow

Morning loves,

Yesterday I received some devastating news my good friend son passed away. He was going to be two this month. I wish I knew what to say. I’m usually the person that always has something to say but this morning my mind is coming up blank.

Have you guys experienced anything like this? If so what should I do? What should I say?

Advice is much needed. Thank You💜

EM

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New Month, New Mindset

Evening,

I hope my post finds you doing well and if not I hope my post uplifts your spirit.

It’s a new month to explore new things. To start a book you always wanted. To go to that hunted house your were to scared to go to before. Or something even simpler try that pumpkin spice latte you waited every fall to try but never had the time to. This month I want to encourage you to take time for yourself.

This month I’m blogging for one straight month for my October Series my hope is to reach someone who might need that uplifting word.

So here’s to the magic of new beginnings loves🌟🌟

Stay Blessed,

EM💜

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Medating

Morning Loves. Rise and shine!!!

Last Friday with my therapist she helped me mediate. Let me tell you it was so calming and relaxing. Now I have tried to mediate in the past but it did not work but with the help of my therapist it was amazing.

Everything was relaxed. The reason why I started to mediate was because I suffer from depression and I am really scared about taking medication. I come from a family of drug addicts and it scares me to get hooked on any type of drug. So I want to find more natural ways of helping with my depression rather than taking medications. Mediation is really good for the body and it helps me with my anxiety.

There are different ways to mediate. Do some research and find what works best for you. As for me. I don’t need music. The lights have to be dimmed down low. I have to guide myself into it with deep breaths starting wth my feet and working my way up to my head. This relaxes each part of my body.I also say breath in love and acceptance and breath out pain and anger. I stay in a relaxed state for about 5-10mins.

Give mediation a try. Relax your mind and body.

Ébony

ps,

Buddha was asked what have you gained from mediation? 

He replied “Nothing! However let me tell you what I have lost. Anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”

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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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It’s Okay to Walk Away 

Morning sunshines. 

Happy Tuesday!! 

Have a positive day. 
It’s no shame in walking away. You did this for yourself. Don’t let anyone let you feel bad about your choice to walk away. Be proud of yourself. No one deserves to stay in a relationship of any kind where they are unhappy. Stand strong in your decision and for once choose yourself💜

Love,

E
ps,

Remember lifes to short to be unhappy. 

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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜 

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Respect!!!

Morning Loves. Happy Saturday. I hope that you have an amazing day. I hope you are feeling yourself today.

A  friend of mines is going through some relationship troubles right now. She asked me to write about it for her on my post for today because she felt that I gave her some good advice. Throughout her whole spiel. The main thing that stuck out from what she was telling me  was that he did not respect her because if he did he would show it.

I can tend to be a little blunt when I am giving friends relationship advice. I am this way because I don’t want to sugar coat anything. I feel like people pacify these things.  You need to be direct and you need to be honest.

RESPECT!! You deserve it.

If they don’t respect you. LEAVE!! If they don’t respect you relationship LEAVE!!

“I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden… but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.”

-Steve Maraboli

One thing I learned is that if you don’t have respect for yourself no one will!!

Demand Respect in your relationship.

Same thing goes for the people that don’t treat your love one with respect. YOU  NEED TO END IT.

-E

ps,

Respect yourself if you don’t know one else will. 

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Day 3 Self-Love Friday!!!

Morning people. Happy Friday!!!

Self-Love its important, it’s something we need. Something I know I lack daily. Today I want you to wake up and SAY “I am Beautiful. I am Gorgeous. I’M HERE TO SLAY!!

Go forth today and slay. Be Your Beautiful!!

 

-Love E

ps,

STOP!

Hating yourself for what you aren’t.

START.

LOVING yourself for everything you are.