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Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!

 

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There Will Be Days 


Some days it’s going to pour. Some days it won’t. 

Life is made up of these days. I’m testament to this. I have experienced some of the worst days of my life. Let me tell you on those days it definitely poured. I didn’t know how to get my life back on track. I prayed and asked god to guide me. 

I’m standing here in Gods grace as I type this post to you. My life is not perfect but it’s not what it use to be. 

My point of this post is to know that when it rains just know that god has plans for beautiful flowers to grow. You may doubt him and become angry with him but know your life is going to be okay.   

Always, 

E

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Bring IT! 

Happy Thursday 💜

 I love this quote above. I do not know about you but I’m far from perfect. But I can tell you I get up everyday and I work hard to be a better me. 

You know how I do this? By putting effort into growing. I put the effort into being a better person than who I was yesterday. It doesn’t have to be a big effort but something small. I will give you an example. I’m not going to lie I am one of those people that will curse you out if you drive slow, cut me off, don’t signal and and pull out in front of me just to go slow. Instead of cursing to show my frustration. I just take a second, breathe and let it go. Something as small as taking a breath helps me. I put effort into reminding myself that that’s not the type of person I want to be. 

Bring the effort to everything you want to do in your life. Please do not be one of those people that say I’m putting effort and nothing is happening, but in your heart you know your not. You won’t see change unless you work at it. In a earlier post I mentioned how we are like gardens. If we don’t water our garden it won’t grow. Think of the water as your effort. If you don’t bring the effort everyday you won’t see any change. 

If you want to become a better person. You have got to put forth the effort. 

Becoming a Better Me, 

Ebony Monae❤️ 

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If you change nothing, NOTHING with change!!!

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Trust Your Journey! 

  
Happy Friday Loves💜! 

It’s Friday! Finally I can unwind and relax. NOT! Busy weekend coming up! Enough about me. How is everyone doing? I hope you had an amazing week. I hope you did all the things you wanted to do. I hope you stuck to you healthy eating plan. I hoped you walked away from people that hurt you. I hope you stood up for yourself. If not there is always tomorrow OR right now. Remember life is too short to waste on tomorrow’s. Right now in this moment claim your life back. 

My message to you on this Friday is don’t give up. Life will confuse you. Life will knock you down. Keep on fighting the good fight. Whatever you do, DO NOT GIVE UP! I believe that anything you put your mind to you can achieve. 

Last week I applied to take the civil service test for child protective services in my county. I actually take it a month away. Then on Wednesday I received an email for a per Diem job opportunity working with foster children. God is amazing! A couple of months ago I was  lost with my life. No plan, no direction. Now I have a job opportunity. Maybe I will like it. Maybe I won’t. But I will say that I’m going to try it. I don’t want to sit back and let opportunities pass me by.   

Life is all about learning and growing. I am learning about me. I told you guys in previous post for too long I have put so many people before me. Now I will put myself first💜! 

My message to you is to trust in Gods promise. He has a plan for your life. He will not lead you astray. I’m a testament to that. So trust in your journey. Yea, you may feel lost and yea you may feel alone, but know this you are not alone because I too have been in that place your in at this moment. I know that if you don’t give up amazing things will happen in your life. 

Blessed and Highly Favored, 

Ebony Monae! 

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Keep GOING💜

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Feeling THE BERN🔥🔥🔥

Tuesday was NY state primary for president and I voted for Bernie Sanders. Why? Simple, because I believe in everything he stands for. He is a man that’s stands for many! He has ideas that can transform this nation. 

Sadly we did not win New York for him, but he is catching up to Hilary Clinton in the polls. He can change our nation. It’s time we ALL took a stand against big money in politics, healthcare, education, climate change, incarceration. Too many people have been quiet for to long. We must stand up and demand these changes. 
  
Bernie know this I’m with you! I’m with you until you decide you have gave it your all. Like I said on my Instagram post “I’m with you like Cap and Bucky till the end of the line.” (Follow me, ebony_monaes_thoughts) 

People ask me all the time your a woman why not vote for a women. It’s not about gender, it’s about people that are falling through the cracks in our nation. It’s about a nation that’s for everyone not just the 1%, it’s about ALL AMERICANS! Hilary doesn’t stand for everyone. Last week Verizon employees went on strike because 40,000 jobs are be outsourced to India. Did I see Hilary rallying with these Americans that are going to loose there jobs? No! Why because she doesn’t CARE! To know what we ordinary citizens go through you have to speak to us. You have to come down your high horse and see what we face everyday. 

Why I’m voting for Bernie because education and healthcare reform is dear to my heart. I’m a college student that in my junior year I faced a lot of health problems. As I graduate in May, I am coming out of college with a lot of school debt that I’m an struggling to pay back. Why? Because there are not a lot of jobs that can pay me what I need to survive. I cut back on a lot of things just to put money in other areas of my life such as bills. Bills (I hate that word)!!

Bernie Sanders you had my vote and that of many of my friends. We STAND WITH YOU because you are fighting for causes that matter. These causes will affect our children futures. We got to make sure things are done right by them. 

Thank you Bernie Sanders for standing up for the 99%! 

Feeling The Bern, 

Ebony Monae🔥🔥

Vote, we can’t not have bigots like Donald Trump running this Country!! 

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Know Your Worth!

  
R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!! 

 Hunny have respect for yourself. LOVE yourself. Do not let anyone put you down, make you feel worthless. You are beautiful! You are amazing! You are NOT what they said you are! The basis for all relationships is RESPECT. 

Lauren Hill, she is just a beautiful soul. Take her words to heart. If she/he doesn’t respect you, then they don’t DESERVE you! I can attest to this. I been through it. I let them do that to me. In the end I learned myself worth. I learned that,  NO you will not speak to me that way. NO you will not put me down, make me feel inferior. The day I said NO I started living for ME! 

Furthermore do not go by what you see on TV. Nowadays you see these woman on these reality shows that let these men make them look like a fool. They have no respect for there relationships or the woman they are dating. Do Not be taken for a fool for any man/women that do not know how to be in a healthy and stable relationship! It’s not cute or healthy to be treated like that. Know Your Worth! 

Lastly, it’s okay to be alone. Don’t be afraid of being alone. There is beauty in growing and learning about yourself. Don’t be disrespected. Don’t stand for that. I understand it’s not easy to walk a way, but understand this there is beauty in walking away! 

Giving it to you Straight, 

EbonyMonae💜

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Working on ME💜

  
I posted this to remind everyone we are a work in PROGRESS!  We are changing everyday. We are fighting battles people no nothing about! I know that I am trying everyday to be a better person than yesterday.! Who can relate? 

To a person that’s struggling this message is for you. Change comes over time. Not in a instant!  If your working at it you will see change. I whole heartedly believe that if you put in the work change will come. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF! You are not perfect no one is but if you strive to make a difference in yourself you will see change. I hope this message reaches you and encourages you! 

Much Love, 

Ebony Monae 

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Don’t forget we are only human we will make mistakes! 

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Happy Tuesday! 

Hey guys. Happy Tuesday. It’s a new week. Let’s strive to be that person we know we can be. Let’s be better then we were yesterday.  My favorite quote now is “have courage and be kind!” That’s from the Cinderella movie. I got a chance to rewatch it this weekend with my little brother and sister. I just loved that quote. It just speaks to you. You may never know who would need that kindness you put forth. So this week be kind to others. It can change there whole life! 

Have courage. Do the things you thought you can not do. Don’t let the devil steal that from you. Believe in yourself. Someone once told me you are your own worst critic. I know that to be true. Because I am constantly putting myself down. It has to end sometime. Why not today? So let’s do all the things others and ourselves said we can not do! 

Having Courage and Kindness 

Ebony Monae💜

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I really hope we all be a little more kinder to others. And have ALOT more courage to do the things we thought we can not. 

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💜Life Changing Moment💜

Good Morning. I wanted to post this Sunday when arrived back from Houston but I was tired and my hand was aching, still is for that matter my hand is in a splint. I apologize already for any misspelled words. So on to the good stuff.

On Sunday March 13th I had a life changing experience.  I have written in the past how I have struggled with direction in my life. What I have not disclosed is how I struggle with my faith. I was always the one that tiptoed into Christianity. Never fully committing because I did not understand it. How people can have so much faith? How someone you never met can have so much control over your life?  I never understood when people say Jesus changed my life or Jesus saved me. I just felt like how can that be. Until Sunday March 13th. 

Sunday March 13th I felt Gods presence. I felt his love for me. I felt his forgiveness. I don’t know if I am explaining it right but I felt his amazing love for me. Me? Someone who always tiptoed in my faith and Christanity. Someone whose faith was smaller than a mustard seed. Someone worst than a sinner. 

March 13th T.D Jakes said a prayer over my life. He spoke about how God takes people like Abraham and Jacobs. You see Jacob didn’t have a clean past. As pastor TD Jakes put it he was a “stutter”.  Messed up over and over in his life. But God still took him and used him. Such as Moses. Moses was a murderer but God used him to lead the Israelites out of Egypt.
Sitting in the stands at LakeWood Church surround by my love ones I felt such a calling on my life. Pastor T.D Jakes also spoke about how we all have a purpose in our life. I mentioned before in a previous post that I was struggling with that. Struggling with direction. Feeling lost. Pastor T.D Jakes put everything into perspective for me. “God has a plan for your life. Everything you have been through is a shadow of what’s to come. Remember where there are shadows there is always light. It will take time for you to understand your full purpose and destiny in life.”

Who knew that on this day I would be in the audience receiving that particular message. I came to Houston for a baby dedication for a friends son. I didn’t even know Pastor T.D Jakes would be there until I met up with everyone to go to Church that morning.
As I sit and write this post I can say I am at peace. I have never known such peace in my life. My mind is always running. Always thinking of the next step. Planning and when plans don’t go right then I am replanning. My mind is at peace. My spirit is at peace. I’m not thinking of tomorrow. I am just at peace. I can say at that this moment I have direction. I know God has a purpose for my life and he won’t lead me astray. 

Finally at Peace, 

Ebony Monae💜

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Lord I pray that whoever reads this post will find direction in there life. I pray that you watch over them and guide them. Thank you lord for never giving up on me. For loving me unconditionally. I pray that your next direction in my life will be greater than the last. In your name I pray. Amen

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Lol here are some snap chat videos lol! 

   
  

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I Want Every Day to Be Valentines Day❤️

So yesterday I got into a heated discussion(it’s a nice way to say argument) with my lovely sister about Valentine’s Day. Since I’m single and she has a boyfriend/baby daddy our views are vastly different. I was debating whether to write something as it is so cliche and I don’t want to come off as “bitter”or “Debbie Downer” as my younger sister put it. I felt like I have to get this off my chest because it didn’t sit right with me. Someone once told when you are feeling the most that’s when you write. So here goes!

First things first, just because I am single in no way or form makes me bitter or hating on anyone’s relationship. Second I was that female that expected gifts on Valentine’s Day as well as time,attention and expensive dinners. As I grew up and matured I wanted differently. Lastly it took time for me to realize that how stupid I was being. He can treat me like crap all year long but that one day he gets a pass because it’s Valentines Day? NO! Not anymore!

That’s what changed. I didn’t want that. I wanted someone to buy me flowers because it’s a Friday and he knows my week was tough at work! Get me peanut M&M’s because it’s my time of the month and they solve the sweet and salty taste that I crave. On Tuesday lets go to a dinner because those biscuits I love are to die for and you know I don’t want to cook us dinner. That’s what I want. Not some guy to treat me good on one day of the year. Treat me as if everyday is Valentines Day! 

As mentioned above I am not hating on anyone’s relationship. I don’t want my post to ruin anyone’s special day or what they believe about Valentine’s Day; but I will say it just pisses me off when people get to tell you just because you don’t see something there way you are “bitter”or “jealous”. No I am not, as I grew up I just wanted different things from a relationship. My sister is still very young and immature. I thought as a another woman and a mother with a daughter that she could relate to what I was saying. Silly me; I was wrong. Honestly she is not the first woman to say that two me when it comes to my thoughts on this day. Or now that I think about it my thoughts on relationships period. 

I understand my views different from other woman but I think we all can say that we want a man that will treat us with the utmost respect. Him treating me or showing me appreciation on one day doesn’t cut it for me as there are 364 other days in a year. 

Well that’s all I have to say for this post! 

Loving Myself First, 

Ebony Monae💜

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Happy Valentines Day❤️💗❤️💗