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Accepting Myself 💕

Hey Loves,

This week I want us to practice acceptance of ourselves. This post is one of the realist ones I have written. I feel it’s time to.

This is me in 2011 at the age of 21.

You wouldn’t know it but I am struggling with body acceptance in this photo. I thought I was fat. I thought I was ugly. I wouldn’t never have my hair natural it had to be permed and blown silky straight.

Now this is the most recent full body photo I have. This was September 2017 at the age of 27.

This photo I am still struggling with body acceptance. I let go of some misconceptions I had about myself. I LOVE my natural hair. I don’t ever have it straightened unless I feel like it. I struggle to see the beauty in myself at times.

I struggle with acceptance of my body. Growing up it was hard. I fully believe loving oneself starts at home where your more comfortable with family. It was not like that for me. I was more developed up top than most girls. My mother would always bring that to my attention and put me down for it like I could control my genetics. She would buy me big shirts to

hide my breast and make me where them. I had to listen to negative comments about myself and my weight. Hearing negative thoughts all your childhood has great impact on who your are in your adulthood.

I’m at a age where I can’t blame my mother for it any longer. I understand it’s time for me to accept me for me. But it’s so damn hard.

Today I want to encourage men and woman to love you for you. I know it’s not easy but start small. Here’s some tips I suggest:

  1. Have your friends text you encouraging words everyday.
  2. Download Pinterest and find uplifting and encouraging wallpapers for your phone that you like.
  3. Have a mirror and a dry erase marker? If you do, write some encouraging words to yourself.
  4. Have post it’s and a sharpie? Leave stickies in hidden places so you can find them randomly.

Gabby quote is so inspiring. It’s time we love our bodies💜

One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body. I got tired of hating myself. < em> -Gabourey Sidibe Let’s begin the journey of self acceptance together. It’s going to rough road but I am ready. Are You?!?

XoXo 😘,

EM

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The Aftermath

Afternoon loves,

Yesterday I didn’t get a chance to blog because I was at the funeral with my friends. When I tell you it was the hardest day in my life, I’m not joking. When my friends cried over there son it broke my heart because you could feel there pain. I never want to hear or witness pain like that in my life.

All week I was racked with quilt because I felt like I couldn’t help her. As I sit and type this it finally hit home that I can help her. I can be there for them while they grieve there son. I found a great quote that I feel helps with grief.

It’s going to be a while before they start the healing process. I want you to know. I will sit there and hold you while you cry. What your both going through has to be the most painful thing in the world. Know your not alone.

When your ready to start the healing process I will be there too. For a long time I struggled with the things that happened to me. I didn’t understand it. Why did God pick me. I am now coming to the realization that God picked me because he has a purpose for my pain. He has a purpose for me and I believe that is to help others. Guide others.

We go through some of the darkest days of our lives. During the storm we don’t see the light but we do come through it. And we are stronger than before. I know your in your storm right now but know that God has a purpose for your pain.

Anyone that’s reading this. The same applies to you. Trust in him. Trust his purpose for your life.

EM💜

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Inspiring Others💜

Morning loves,

Today I am a little bit more upbeat, than I have been these last few days.

Sometimes I meet people who think that there lives won’t ever inspire others. Hell even I think that but we forget that whatever we are going through can help someone. That roadblock you were on and got through, can inspire someone to get through there’s. That new job you were scared to go after but Finally Did. Can inspire someone to follow there dreams. That bad breakup you got over when you didn’t think you could but DID. Can inspire someone else.

So don’t think your story can’t inspire others because it can and to myself baby girl your story can inspire the masses to so don’t you forget that. (Sometimes in need that pep talk too💜)

Inspiring Others 💜,

EM

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Trust Him

Morning Loves,

This morning my heart is still heavy. As mentioned yesterday my friend lost her son. I’m still coming to terms with it myself. In moments like this you want to be supportive and be there for your friends. I still don’t know what to say that will make it okay. That will ease her pain. In times like this I’m learning to trust my on my own faith.

For anyone that’s going through anything. Trust on your faith.

Know that God will get you through it. Sometimes it’s hard to hear that but know God is there. When I feel like my back is to the wall I always say “God won’t give me more than I can handle.” I repeat it all the time and that simple phrase gets me through it. I feel empowered because he knows what I can handle.

Keeping the Faith,

EM💜

ps,

Baby girl I love you more than you know. No words can heal your heart right now but know I am here always.

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New Month, New Mindset

Evening,

I hope my post finds you doing well and if not I hope my post uplifts your spirit.

It’s a new month to explore new things. To start a book you always wanted. To go to that hunted house your were to scared to go to before. Or something even simpler try that pumpkin spice latte you waited every fall to try but never had the time to. This month I want to encourage you to take time for yourself.

This month I’m blogging for one straight month for my October Series my hope is to reach someone who might need that uplifting word.

So here’s to the magic of new beginnings loves🌟🌟

Stay Blessed,

EM💜

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Face Your True North

Morning,

Cheers to having a blessed and prosperous Monday.

It took me a while to understand that I AM NOT FOR EVERYONE. This message really spoke to me. Reminded me that everyone won’t like and that’s okay. Everyone won’t love you and that’s okay too. What’s not okay is keeping them around. So here’s the message :

Did you read it?!? I know it’s a little long BUT how I loved it. I mentioned in a previous post that I went back to someone who I know didn’t love me but I loved them. Well this explains don’t do it. Continue on a path of purpose and fulfillment.

You are not for them and they are not for you!

How I loved that sentence. Don’t waste your time on someone who YOU know is not worth even an ounce of you. Keep on in the right direction.

I hope this message helps you in ways it did me.

XoXo,

E

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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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I’m Scared! 

I don’t even know where to begin with this post so I’m just going to start. 

When I was 25 I was diagnosed with AVNRT which is Atrioventricular Nodal Reentry Tachycardia. Which basically means I was born with an extra piece of tissue in my heart and sometimes the electricity in my heart hits it and throws off the heartbeat which causes me to have palpitations, chest pain, tightening of chess and etc. 

When I heard that at 25 I was just like this is can’t be real. I have been healthy my whole life. I first had those symptoms in early November  of 2014 I ended up going to the hospital and they found something totally different. Now that I think about it this diagnosis saved my life. By the time I got to the hospital the symptoms where gone but they found I had a pulmonary embolism on my lung which is a blood clot.    

They ended up treating me for that but two weeks later I’m right back in the ER for the AVNRT. It was pretty scary ordeal. I had people everywhich way. I felt like I was on an epeisode of ER. That was the night they diagnosed me.

 For the past three years I have been dealing with this. It’s been pretty damn scary. Most people might think I’m complaining because other people are way more sicker than me. Which I get but in that moment in my life I was scared. I didn’t know if my heart was going to go out, have a heart attack, or my blood clots came back. I was plain ol’ scared out of my mind. You know what I didn’t tell anybody just kind of put it out of my mind type of thing. When the symptoms came I knew how to stop them until last week. Because now my fear is back. 

Last week I couldn’t stop them those symptoms came back x10. I felt like I was having a heart attack (never had a heart attack) but sure felt like I was dying. 

Now I have to do a procedure where they have to basically cut off that piece of  tissue. It’s an in and out procedure but I’m freaking scared. Anything can go wrong. There’s a possibility they may not find it or a possibility it can be something else entirely. 

I still don’t know why I am writing this post. I guess just to put my fears to blog (hahaha can’t say paper).  I can say I feel better about the whole dang on thing. Still pretty scared but I feel better got my thoughts out. 

Xoxo,

E

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It’s Okay to Walk Away 

Morning sunshines. 

Happy Tuesday!! 

Have a positive day. 
It’s no shame in walking away. You did this for yourself. Don’t let anyone let you feel bad about your choice to walk away. Be proud of yourself. No one deserves to stay in a relationship of any kind where they are unhappy. Stand strong in your decision and for once choose yourself💜

Love,

E
ps,

Remember lifes to short to be unhappy. 

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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜