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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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It’s Okay to Walk Away 

Morning sunshines. 

Happy Tuesday!! 

Have a positive day. 
It’s no shame in walking away. You did this for yourself. Don’t let anyone let you feel bad about your choice to walk away. Be proud of yourself. No one deserves to stay in a relationship of any kind where they are unhappy. Stand strong in your decision and for once choose yourself💜

Love,

E
ps,

Remember lifes to short to be unhappy. 

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Respect!!!

Morning Loves. Happy Saturday. I hope that you have an amazing day. I hope you are feeling yourself today.

A  friend of mines is going through some relationship troubles right now. She asked me to write about it for her on my post for today because she felt that I gave her some good advice. Throughout her whole spiel. The main thing that stuck out from what she was telling me  was that he did not respect her because if he did he would show it.

I can tend to be a little blunt when I am giving friends relationship advice. I am this way because I don’t want to sugar coat anything. I feel like people pacify these things.  You need to be direct and you need to be honest.

RESPECT!! You deserve it.

If they don’t respect you. LEAVE!! If they don’t respect you relationship LEAVE!!

“I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden… but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.”

-Steve Maraboli

One thing I learned is that if you don’t have respect for yourself no one will!!

Demand Respect in your relationship.

Same thing goes for the people that don’t treat your love one with respect. YOU  NEED TO END IT.

-E

ps,

Respect yourself if you don’t know one else will. 

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Lets talk about FEELINGS!!

DAY 2 Topic Feelings!!

LADIES AND GENTS OPEN UP TO YOUR SPOUSES!!!

One of the things I regret in my previous relationships is not talking about my feelings. Telling them how I felt. I am the type that keeps things inside. Never opening up.  I would keep everything inside.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY PEOPLE!! Open up. If you not happy LET THEM KNOW.  If your upset LET THEM KNOW. If you sad LET THEM KNOW. Tell them how you feel.

Finally, the feelings that you both have should be equal as well as the effort in the relationship should be equal.

If you have anything you want to talk about don’t hesitate to email me at ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

As always Be Inspired to live a life you LOVE<3

-E

 

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Self-Love & Relationships

Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!

 

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Be Selfish! 

Good Morning loves. Hope my post finds you doing amazingly well. If not I hope my post cheers you up.   

I will be twenty seven this up coming October. Twenty freaking seven. One thing that stuck out to me was that I still had a lot of time to BE SELFISH!!!!!! 

Lately I just felt like I don’t give myself enough time for me. If I’m not working I’m being pulled in this direction to that direction. I came to realize that it’s okay to say no I just want this time for me. To grow. To explore.  It’s okay to do just that. You know why? Because it’s your life to do with it as you please. 

It’s okay to be selfish with your time because it’s all about bettering you and doing things you have never done. 

Do something amazing with your time. Do something  you have never done but always wanted to. Explore new places. Meet new people. Dabble in this and that or don’t. It’s all up to you. 

I recently saw this clip on fb and it was from divorce court. It stood out to me because a lot of us put up with way to much shit from our signicant others. I felt it tied in to what I was saying. Watch the clip and “Fire any dude who don’t act right”

 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iw7-vfXQJ20

As always Be Amazing, Be Beautiful and Be Vibrant💜 

Ebony Monae

ps, 

Be selfish💗

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Know Your Worth Ladies

Good Morning. It’s leave your no good man Tuesday(that should be a hashtag, I’m just saying). I hope my post finds you in a great spirit this morning💜

Ladies, I’m going to give it to you straight. We have to value ourselves. Love ourselves!  I have been hearing stories from woman whose men treat them like crap. It gets me pissed off. I’m like your to great of a catch to be cheated on, or going through physical/verbal abuse. 

Some woman don’t want to leave because they think that it’s normal. THAT IS NOT A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP!! 

No man has the right to belittle you. Know your self worth. Sometimes we get in relationships and we get so wrapped up in him. It could be his charm, money, and looks. Ask yourself is that worth it? Money? Looks? Charm? Is that worth him treating you the way he does? 

My point is love yourself enough to walk away. Love yourself enough to know that you don’t deserve whatever he is dishing out. Trust me I have been there. I was in your shoes. I thought if I loved him a little harder he would change. In the end he didn’t. I finally saw him for what he truly was a man that was not ready for a woman like me. 

Ebony💜

ps, 
one of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what was hurting your heart and soul. 

-Anonymous 

pss,

Be brave💜 

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You Can’t Buy Love

Inspiration Tuesday!!!

My friend put me on to the song “You Can Buy Everything” by singer Somo. While singing this song I was actually listenting to the lyrics. They lyrics made me think about a time in my life where I tried to buy someones love. I was nineteen. I really liked this guy and I would literally pay for everything from movies, dinner to even buying him a $300 pair of sneakers. As the relationship drew to a close I came to the realization that love can not be bought. I also realized that love has no monetary value. That a person would have to earn my love.

“You can buy everything”

“But you can’t, you can’t buy love.”

How many people try to buy love? I know a person that spends all his money on trying to keep a girlfriend. Let me tell you what I tell him; LET HER GO!! You can not buy a persons love. If that person wants to be with you they will stay. What happens when you no longer have the funds? They will leave you. Now you will heartbroken and broke. I would rather be broke and happy than be used. To anybody thats reading this post. Love is a precious thing. If that person cannot love you if you are not spending money on them they you need to let that person go. Love yourself more! 

Find you a person that is with you when you don’t have nothing. Those are the type of people you need to be in a relationship with.

Much Love,

Ebony Monae<3

ps,

Below is the song by Somo. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

 

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Love Again💜

Please don’t give up on love. Don’t give up on your happy ending. We all go through relationships that are painful. Look at that failed relationship as a learning experience and learn from it. 

Hunny relationships will fail, you will get hurt, and you will most likely hate love and give up on it. I’m telling you not to. Take your time to heal and grow but know that if it’s true love and meant to be it will be

Give someone a chance to show you all the things you deserve. Life is short to go through it with out love. 

Loving Again, 

Ebony Monae💜💜 

ps, 

Have the courage to trust LOVE one more time💜

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Single and OKAY With It! 

Happy 🐫 Day! 

Today lets talk about being single. Have you ever told someone that your single and they give you the look like what’s wrong with you? Or the look of pity.  Honestly I hate those freaking looks. I also hate the “let’s set you up with someone” line. I think that is so rude. Your basically telling me that there is something wrong with being single. I understand your heart might be in the right place. There is this stigma around being single. Oh wait there’s more being a “black woman” and single is the worst. I swear black men look at me like I am crazy or something. It’s like have a sign on my forward saying “she’s black and single she must be crazy”. That’s not even the case. 

Bottoms line there is nothing wrong with be single. There is nothing wrong with be one with yourself. Being in a relationship requires a lot of time and energy. Don’t be in a relationship if your not ready. 

I am okay with being single. Don’t get me wrong it bothers me when I am the fifth wheel when I go out with my friends (two of my friends are married). It bothers me not having that person waiting on the other end to cheer you up after a long day at work. It bothers me when I have no date to the movies so I go alone. Noticed I stated it “bothers me”. It’s not the end of the world. I will be okay. Why? Because I know God has an amazing man set aside for me. I trust that when the time is right God will reveal him to me. 

Being single is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. Take this time to know what you want. Take this time to work on yourself. Take this time to discover new things. Take this time to be happy! Again there is nothing wrong with being single! 

Happily Single, 

Ebony Monae 💘 

ps, 

Being single is not a status but a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life WITHOUT depending on others💕