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Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!


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I Want Every Day to Be Valentines Day❤️

So yesterday I got into a heated discussion(it’s a nice way to say argument) with my lovely sister about Valentine’s Day. Since I’m single and she has a boyfriend/baby daddy our views are vastly different. I was debating whether to write something as it is so cliche and I don’t want to come off as “bitter”or “Debbie Downer” as my younger sister put it. I felt like I have to get this off my chest because it didn’t sit right with me. Someone once told when you are feeling the most that’s when you write. So here goes!

First things first, just because I am single in no way or form makes me bitter or hating on anyone’s relationship. Second I was that female that expected gifts on Valentine’s Day as well as time,attention and expensive dinners. As I grew up and matured I wanted differently. Lastly it took time for me to realize that how stupid I was being. He can treat me like crap all year long but that one day he gets a pass because it’s Valentines Day? NO! Not anymore!

That’s what changed. I didn’t want that. I wanted someone to buy me flowers because it’s a Friday and he knows my week was tough at work! Get me peanut M&M’s because it’s my time of the month and they solve the sweet and salty taste that I crave. On Tuesday lets go to a dinner because those biscuits I love are to die for and you know I don’t want to cook us dinner. That’s what I want. Not some guy to treat me good on one day of the year. Treat me as if everyday is Valentines Day! 

As mentioned above I am not hating on anyone’s relationship. I don’t want my post to ruin anyone’s special day or what they believe about Valentine’s Day; but I will say it just pisses me off when people get to tell you just because you don’t see something there way you are “bitter”or “jealous”. No I am not, as I grew up I just wanted different things from a relationship. My sister is still very young and immature. I thought as a another woman and a mother with a daughter that she could relate to what I was saying. Silly me; I was wrong. Honestly she is not the first woman to say that two me when it comes to my thoughts on this day. Or now that I think about it my thoughts on relationships period. 

I understand my views different from other woman but I think we all can say that we want a man that will treat us with the utmost respect. Him treating me or showing me appreciation on one day doesn’t cut it for me as there are 364 other days in a year. 

Well that’s all I have to say for this post! 

Loving Myself First, 

Ebony Monae💜


Happy Valentines Day❤️💗❤️💗

love Yourself, Valentines Day

The Month of Love and What it Means to Me


Its February and the month of Love. Everywhere you turn you see nothing but pink and red. As Valentines Day approaches it is a day people look forward too and a day others dread. In the beginning of the year I took a pledge. Every month it would be a month for me to work on something I feel I lack. Last month it was eating healthy and starting a healthy life style. I stuck to my guns I have cut out sweets, sodas(only drunk it occasionally), starting eating more healthy, starting working out everyday. I set goals for this year and what I want it to mean to me.

The month of February is about love correct? Well I pledge to love myself. Love who I am. Love the person I am becoming. Love my natural hair, love my big boobs, love my round belly, love my thighs that touch each other. Loving yourself is the first step to loving someone else. I have always struggled to love who I am. Looking to others to love me first rather than my own self. For years I LET others mistreat me, believing in there own twisted way that they loved me. Since then I have grown. So in the month of love I am pledging love to myself.

Many might see this post and think she’s single or hating on Valentines Day. That is their opinion but that is not the case. 2015 for me is all about growth and prosperity. They are right to think that I am single but I do not hate on others who have someone to spend Valentines Day with. Last month it was about beginning the year right and starting a healthy lifestyle.  To all others who struggle with self doubt and loving themselves I hope my post reminds you to love yourself. Do not let others dictate how you fell about yourself. If you have a lover or not on Valentines Day treat yourself even if its getting yourself a little gift. Nothing is more beautiful  than a person loving who they are!

XOXO EbonyMonae


Happy Valentines Day<3