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Body Positive Monday

Morningggggg lovesss,

So yesterday evening I posted a post that was very raw to me. I hope you read it. If not it’s going to be right before this one. Today’s quote is:

Love your body. I have big ass boobs and a flat butt but you know what I’m going to love me anyway. I also have stretch marks galore. But I’m going to love how God made me. I know it’s hard. Trust me it’s freaking hard. But love it anyway. It’s time we learn to love us for US.

Love you guys and I hope my quote helps you💕

XoXo 😘

-E

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Accepting Myself 💕

Hey Loves,

This week I want us to practice acceptance of ourselves. This post is one of the realist ones I have written. I feel it’s time to.

This is me in 2011 at the age of 21.

You wouldn’t know it but I am struggling with body acceptance in this photo. I thought I was fat. I thought I was ugly. I wouldn’t never have my hair natural it had to be permed and blown silky straight.

Now this is the most recent full body photo I have. This was September 2017 at the age of 27.

This photo I am still struggling with body acceptance. I let go of some misconceptions I had about myself. I LOVE my natural hair. I don’t ever have it straightened unless I feel like it. I struggle to see the beauty in myself at times.

I struggle with acceptance of my body. Growing up it was hard. I fully believe loving oneself starts at home where your more comfortable with family. It was not like that for me. I was more developed up top than most girls. My mother would always bring that to my attention and put me down for it like I could control my genetics. She would buy me big shirts to

hide my breast and make me where them. I had to listen to negative comments about myself and my weight. Hearing negative thoughts all your childhood has great impact on who your are in your adulthood.

I’m at a age where I can’t blame my mother for it any longer. I understand it’s time for me to accept me for me. But it’s so damn hard.

Today I want to encourage men and woman to love you for you. I know it’s not easy but start small. Here’s some tips I suggest:

  1. Have your friends text you encouraging words everyday.
  2. Download Pinterest and find uplifting and encouraging wallpapers for your phone that you like.
  3. Have a mirror and a dry erase marker? If you do, write some encouraging words to yourself.
  4. Have post it’s and a sharpie? Leave stickies in hidden places so you can find them randomly.

Gabby quote is so inspiring. It’s time we love our bodies💜

One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body. I got tired of hating myself. < em> -Gabourey Sidibe Let’s begin the journey of self acceptance together. It’s going to rough road but I am ready. Are You?!?

XoXo 😘,

EM

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Educating Ignorant People! 

I wrote a post similar to this when I first started my blog, “Being Called a White Girl When Your Very a Much Black Woman”. It saddens me that I have to write another one because people are not understanding how ignorant they are! 

I am not a “white girl”. I am a beautiful African American Woman.  I am sick and tired of black men and woman saying that I’m not.  That is an igonorant statement to make.   

STOP putting a label on me. You calling me a “white girl” makes it seems like my African American side is nonexistent. The sad part is people think it’s okay to say that to your face. Then they have the nerve to get all worked up and upset when you let them know about themselves. Don’t tell me to relax. That angers me and I’m going to call you out on it. Let’s get one thing straight; I AM A BLACK WOMAN! 

Tell me what is a black girl? What is a white girl? Society thinks that black girls snap there necks and talk uneducatedly. Whereas white girls talk very proper they say “like” a lot. News flash everyone is different. There are white girls that’s listen to hard core rap and black girls that love Taylor Swift. Doesn’t make us less of black girl or them more of a black girl. 

My friend asked me why does this bother me? Why do you care what others think? I had to think on that and reflect. I have been called that my whole life. From an early age my own ethnic group has labeled me such. It bothers me because at that young age I couldn’t say anything but now being a grown woman I can and I will. I will stick up for those other woman who has been labeled as such. 

Finally, just because I don’t act how you think a black woman should act gives you no right to say that to me. Does not give you the right to ostracize me. At the end of the day I am a Black Woman and I’m PROUD!! 

Beautiful Melanin, 

Ebony Monae 💜🙋🏾 

ps, 

In life you will meet ignorant people know the difference of when to educate and when to walk away because some people will never learn. 

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You Are Extraordinary💖 


My beautiful sisters. You are EXTRAORDINARY! We are more than our looks. What you have in the inside matters. Your are Kind! Your are Courageous! You are Strong! Your are Amazing! 

Happy Tuesday my Beautiful Sisters! 

Encouraging People of Today, 

Ebony Monae💖

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🙆🏾Natural Hair Update&Rant🙆🏾

Hello my Natural Sisters.  I hope you guys are slaying (I love this word and Idk why lol)the natural hair world. Two weekends ago I was in Houston. Let me just go off on a tangent and speak about Houston. I loved Houston while I was there. It was my first time visiting and it won’t be my last time. It was a pretty city. The food was good. The people were nice. Houston was like the capital of Natural Hair. Everywhere I went I saw Natural Hair women. I also went to a few beauty supply stores they all sold natural hair care products and on top of that there were a lot of beauty schools I saw as I was driving by.  Some of the products I saw I have never even heard of before( you know was on Youtube like nobodies business). Prices were in between. Some things I saw I was like damn they don’t have that so cheap by me. Others I was like its way cheaper by me. While there I got some cool products to try out. I have posted pictures below. I got these Products from Pampered&Twisted. They are a natural hair boutique located in Houston. It was a nice establishment. The worker was very nice and friendly. He was also helpful. He was knowledgeable about natural hair as well. When I go back to Houston I will most definitely be returning. One thing I like about Pampered &Twisted was that they sell these products online if I like what I see, it’s easy to repurchase more.

Product Reviews:

  •  I love the Curls Blueberry Bliss Restorative Leave In Conditioner. Let me start off by saying it smells amazing. It revitalizes my tresses. Loveeeee ittttt; will definitely purchase again. The price was not to bad either.
  • The Blue Rose Beauty Chocolate Rose Hair Mask was amazing. My hair was so soft after the I used it. I loved how easy it was to detangle my hair. THE SMELL? Was to die for. If I could I would eat my hair that is how good it smelled. I will for sure be repurchasing in the near future.
  • The Jireh Edge Control was my least favorite. I saw the product on many Instagram’s and Vlogs. It really did not lay my edges down. I get better results using the Eco Styler Gel. I am going to use it again and I will see if I like it any better. Will update with pic of styles if I do.

Now on to my RANT. While I was in Houston, I was at a beauty store shopping for products this young woman approached me asked me if I can explain to her somethings about Natural hair. Even though I had to catch a plane that very afternoon, actually in less than an hour. I still took the time to help her. Took the time to guide her. In April it will be three years that I am natural. I have had people help me along the way. My friend Diana was always telling me about products to use as I started to transition. Trust me on this, I have had bad hair days and then I had days where my hair was SLAYED y’all. I came to the realization that we have to help others on this journey. You would be surprised how people do not want to help other woman. For an example, a couple of months back  I belonged to this Facebook group about woman empowerment. This one woman posted a pic about natural hair. So other woman were commenting and saying it was a great hair style and how they loved it, while also posting pictures of there natural hair. So this one woman posted a picture where she asked for help with her hair. Her hair was extremely short and breaking off. Not one person gave her advice but me. As woman who are natural we have to help others on this journey and yes it is a journey. Especially coming from an era where it’s common to spend money on bundles of hair instead of investing time into your own hair. Take the time and help someone on there journey. I have had quite a lot of woman ask me things about hair. Every person who asked me I gave them either resources or gave them the knowledge of what I knew. When I am in the mood to look at hair techniques I’m looking for hours, I’m researching products, blogs, vlogs and YouTube like crazy.

My Final Thoughts:

I am gaining knowledge about my hair and its empowering to me. My natural is empowering to me. Somedays I hate doing my hair and other days I am blessed that my hair is healthy and that I have the funds to take care of my hair. Invest time in your hair. Invest the time for yourself. 

1.Products from Pampered & Twisted! Here is the website just in case you gals wants to check it out. http://www.pamperedtendrils.com
2. This is what my hair looks like with the Chocolate Hair Mask in. My hair is so super soft and the curls are defined. 

3. I always wanted to do one of these things. So I did. Check out my Instagram Ebony_Monaes_Thoughts. I show you how I achieved this look. Can anyone tell me my hair type? I feel like its a bit of everything. My colorist doesn’t like to go by that. He says curls are curls. I am just curious is all.    

5. These photos are me with my protective braids. Those edges are slicked babyyy lol.(this pic below and above I used the Eco Styler).


6.Last but not least this photo is my hair blown out and flat ironed. I love and hate my hair in this state. I hate the maintenance of it. Bumping the ends in the morning. The upkeep is not worth it to me.

One thing I want a reader to get out of this post is to love your hair and to help someone else on there natural hair journey.  Love this journey your on. Like I wrote above its empowering. 

Happily Natural<3

Ebony Monae<3

 

 

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Your Uniquely You


This week Affirmation is that your uniquely you. I posted this picture a month or so back. On Friday it applied to my life.

On Friday I posted a picture of myself dressed as a  some would say an hippie. This era to me reflects woman empowerment and how they really wanted change. Anyways that night I received ridicule and was made fun of for my outfit (personally I thought I looked cute). What I am trying to say I was living my life how I saw fit. I was BEING MYSELF. Those words could have changed my whole outlook. I could have let others thoughts define me. In the end I remember the ending of this quote “…live only as YOU can.”  I Understood that my  life was completely mines to do with it what I wanted to. I am living it how you see I fit.

One of the biggest things I want my readers to understand is that life is short. We are not promised tomorrow. With that being said be the person you want to be, live life on your own terms. Last Wednesday I wrote a post about taking a jump in your life. Now I want you to accept who you are. I want you to love the person who you are becoming. You are strong, brilliant, beautiful. I say this mantra to myself everyday. It reminds me where I came from. The girl with so much self hate and turmoil in her life. Everyday is a battle. So I remind myself that I am beautiful and I am enough.

Keep this in mind as you go about the rest of your week. Have fun. Love openly.  Dance, sing or read but do it because you love it. Do it because it makes you happy. You don’t have to dance perfectly or sing on key. Sing and dance because it brings your spirit joy.

 

Living Life As Only I Can,

Ebony Monae<3

 

 

 

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Some Wednesday Thoughts

  

Always be you. Always love who you are.  This quote just spoke to me. Lately I just had to remind myself to be ME. I got so caught up with looking at things on instagram and Pinterest, I was putting myself down that my hair wasn’t like that or I wish I had style like they do. That I forgot to look at myself and say no one is me.  I am my own person with a unique style and voice.

With that being said. This weeks Affirmation for me is that I am uniquely me. No one has my vision or voice. My  life is completely mines to do with it what I want to.

One of the biggest things I want my readers to understand is that life is short. We are not promised tomorrow. Be the person you want to be, live life on your own terms.

Keep this in mind as you go about the rest of your week. Have fun. Love openly.  Dance, sing or read but do it because you love it.

Living my life as only I can, 

Ebony Monae

ps,

Never conform to others standards of beauty. Love who you are. Listen to your own heart. Listen to your own voice.  


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NOVEMBER 9 Review!!

To all my book lovers it has been a long time since I have did a book review. Last week Colleen Hoover released November 9. I was in Colleen Hoover frenzy last week. LAST WEEK was pretty damn awesome week if I say so myself.  I will write the review then tell you about my awesome week (it all ties in I swear).

Without Further Adieu,

I AM IN LOVE WITH NOVEMBER 9. Colleen you have done it again. I go through so many emotions reading your books. November 9 was a deep read. One minute I am laughing, smiling then I am angry, crying and then back to laughing. It is most defiantly a emotional roller coaster. The twist and turns keep the reader interested.

When you find love, you take it. You grab it with both hands and you do everything in your power not to let it go. You can’t just walk away from it and expect it to linger until you’re ready for it.” 
― Colleen HooverNovember 9

This book you had Benton and Fallon. One who wore her scars for the world to see and the other whose scars you couldn’t see. November 9th was a day that neither one would forget. It changed their lives in more ways then they can ever imagine. The beauty of this day was meeting each other and giving it a different meaning. With pain comes healing. They both had to heal from the traumatic events from November 9th. They both had to forgive each other. I think thats the hardest thing to do is forgive someone. I love how you made their love story different. Most books they fall in love over time because they are around each other, here they fall in love by meeting each other on one day every year for four years.

Colleen your an amazing writer. Your words move a person. They speak and inspire me. Thank you for writing such a heartfelt book. Thanks for giving your readers the true meaning of love or “insta love”.

Happy Reading!!!

Guys I literally did the ugly cry when reading this book and my friend has the videos to prove it (no I am not posting it, its UGLY). On a serious matter this book was an amazing read. Colleen writes about things a person would never think could happen. She makes you believe in love again. My heart has been broken to many times and I personally gave up on love. I was destined to be the cat lady.  Thank you Colleen for making me believe in love again.

SO HERE IS MY SURPRISE Drum roll please.


  
I got to meet COLLEEN HOOVER AND SHE SIGNED MY BOOK. It was an amazing day. My best friend and I got to meet her (Thats my best friend, thats my best friend). Colleen is funny as hell. I am so happy to got the chance to meet her. The audience got to ask her questions and she answered them.  This was my first book signing and it won’t be my last.

See you waited and now you got to read about about my amazing day.

Forever a Book Lover,

EbonyMonae

ps

PLEASE READ NOVEMBER 9!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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🍁New Month, Be Awesome 🍂

  
Hey guys it’s November! Sheesh it seems that time is just going so fast nowadays. Well I hope we all had a great month of October. November, November what do I hope to gain from you this month? Hmmm let’s see, I just want to be happy and be in good health. Last November I suffered from a lot of health problems. Even though my health problems are constantly on my mind I won’t bring them to the forefront. 

With that being said, I know my month is going to be awesome. I am still on Weight Watchers so hopefully I will continue to loose  some weight. I am in school working on my thesis (Lord give me strength) I am not going to let that get to me. So here’s to a awesome November may we be productive, happy, kind and always, always be ourselves 💖💖💖💖

Love Always

💕EbonyMonae 💕 

ps

For us single ladies and gentleman lets go on some dates or meet new people. Love is in the air💋

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Taking The Next Step💪🏾

  

First things first Happy October!! I love the month of October the fall leaves start to change different colors. With the leaves changing I want to change as well. I want to change my body.

This year I wanted to take control of my weight. I am one of those people who carries there weight well (to me weight its weight). Currently I am 170 and for my 5’1 frame I am considered obese. When I stare at myself in the mirror I don’t see beautiful. I don’t see a person I am comfortable with. This whole year has been about change from the inside out. I am the type of person who looses weight pretty quickly but also gains it as well. It’s a cycle I go through, I gain and loose. Now as the colder months hit and I am taking out my winter clothes none of them FIT. I am wearing black leggings to work almost every day because my dress slacks don’t fit. My blouses don’t fit. LITERALLY NOTHING FITS. 

Today I said enough is enough. I want to live a healthy livestyle. I want to feel comfortable and beautiful in my clothes and not worry about my bra rolls OR tummy rolls. Today I finally admitted I needed some outside help. So with the help of my best friend I joined drum roll please (does the universal sign for drum roll) Weight Watchers.

I know you guys are probably thinking its Weight Watchers not a big deal but to me that’s a huge freaking deal. I’m the type of person that’s does everything on my own. I dont like to depend on people at all. It comes naturally that losing weight should be done on my own. So signing up for Weight Watchers means I will be going to the meetings once a week and getting weighed in. I, being me wanted to take it one step further with Weight Watchers I am giving  myself week by week goals. Starting Monday its workout for 30 Mins a day with Cassie Ho (blogilates) and then the next week eat more vegetables and so on. I read somewhere if you give yourself short obtainable goals they are easier to reach.

So for the month of October I am planning on loosing weight. I want to truly begin living an lifestyle that is healthy. I don’t know how I am going to write about it. I know some days will be hard and the other days will be easier. I am happy to finally take this step towards being healthy and comfortable in my own skin.

Soon to be Fit and Fabulous

Ebony Monae

p.s

I don’t want people to take this the wrong way about what I wrote. Some people feel like you should learn to love your body the way it is. But I feel like if you can change something about yourself than you should. I don’t want people to think that I am talking about plastic surgery. I am talking about hard work and determination of knowing what my body needs and making the best changes a I can.