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Trust Your Journey! 

Happy Friday Loves💜! 

It’s Friday! Finally I can unwind and relax. NOT! Busy weekend coming up! Enough about me. How is everyone doing? I hope you had an amazing week. I hope you did all the things you wanted to do. I hope you stuck to you healthy eating plan. I hoped you walked away from people that hurt you. I hope you stood up for yourself. If not there is always tomorrow OR right now. Remember life is too short to waste on tomorrow’s. Right now in this moment claim your life back. 

My message to you on this Friday is don’t give up. Life will confuse you. Life will knock you down. Keep on fighting the good fight. Whatever you do, DO NOT GIVE UP! I believe that anything you put your mind to you can achieve. 

Last week I applied to take the civil service test for child protective services in my county. I actually take it a month away. Then on Wednesday I received an email for a per Diem job opportunity working with foster children. God is amazing! A couple of months ago I was  lost with my life. No plan, no direction. Now I have a job opportunity. Maybe I will like it. Maybe I won’t. But I will say that I’m going to try it. I don’t want to sit back and let opportunities pass me by.   

Life is all about learning and growing. I am learning about me. I told you guys in previous post for too long I have put so many people before me. Now I will put myself first💜! 

My message to you is to trust in Gods promise. He has a plan for your life. He will not lead you astray. I’m a testament to that. So trust in your journey. Yea, you may feel lost and yea you may feel alone, but know this you are not alone because I too have been in that place your in at this moment. I know that if you don’t give up amazing things will happen in your life. 

Blessed and Highly Favored, 

Ebony Monae! 



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Working on ME💜

I posted this to remind everyone we are a work in PROGRESS!  We are changing everyday. We are fighting battles people no nothing about! I know that I am trying everyday to be a better person than yesterday.! Who can relate? 

To a person that’s struggling this message is for you. Change comes over time. Not in a instant!  If your working at it you will see change. I whole heartedly believe that if you put in the work change will come. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF! You are not perfect no one is but if you strive to make a difference in yourself you will see change. I hope this message reaches you and encourages you! 

Much Love, 

Ebony Monae 


Don’t forget we are only human we will make mistakes! 

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🙆🏾Natural Hair Update&Rant🙆🏾

Hello my Natural Sisters.  I hope you guys are slaying (I love this word and Idk why lol)the natural hair world. Two weekends ago I was in Houston. Let me just go off on a tangent and speak about Houston. I loved Houston while I was there. It was my first time visiting and it won’t be my last time. It was a pretty city. The food was good. The people were nice. Houston was like the capital of Natural Hair. Everywhere I went I saw Natural Hair women. I also went to a few beauty supply stores they all sold natural hair care products and on top of that there were a lot of beauty schools I saw as I was driving by.  Some of the products I saw I have never even heard of before( you know was on Youtube like nobodies business). Prices were in between. Some things I saw I was like damn they don’t have that so cheap by me. Others I was like its way cheaper by me. While there I got some cool products to try out. I have posted pictures below. I got these Products from Pampered&Twisted. They are a natural hair boutique located in Houston. It was a nice establishment. The worker was very nice and friendly. He was also helpful. He was knowledgeable about natural hair as well. When I go back to Houston I will most definitely be returning. One thing I like about Pampered &Twisted was that they sell these products online if I like what I see, it’s easy to repurchase more.

Product Reviews:

  •  I love the Curls Blueberry Bliss Restorative Leave In Conditioner. Let me start off by saying it smells amazing. It revitalizes my tresses. Loveeeee ittttt; will definitely purchase again. The price was not to bad either.
  • The Blue Rose Beauty Chocolate Rose Hair Mask was amazing. My hair was so soft after the I used it. I loved how easy it was to detangle my hair. THE SMELL? Was to die for. If I could I would eat my hair that is how good it smelled. I will for sure be repurchasing in the near future.
  • The Jireh Edge Control was my least favorite. I saw the product on many Instagram’s and Vlogs. It really did not lay my edges down. I get better results using the Eco Styler Gel. I am going to use it again and I will see if I like it any better. Will update with pic of styles if I do.

Now on to my RANT. While I was in Houston, I was at a beauty store shopping for products this young woman approached me asked me if I can explain to her somethings about Natural hair. Even though I had to catch a plane that very afternoon, actually in less than an hour. I still took the time to help her. Took the time to guide her. In April it will be three years that I am natural. I have had people help me along the way. My friend Diana was always telling me about products to use as I started to transition. Trust me on this, I have had bad hair days and then I had days where my hair was SLAYED y’all. I came to the realization that we have to help others on this journey. You would be surprised how people do not want to help other woman. For an example, a couple of months back  I belonged to this Facebook group about woman empowerment. This one woman posted a pic about natural hair. So other woman were commenting and saying it was a great hair style and how they loved it, while also posting pictures of there natural hair. So this one woman posted a picture where she asked for help with her hair. Her hair was extremely short and breaking off. Not one person gave her advice but me. As woman who are natural we have to help others on this journey and yes it is a journey. Especially coming from an era where it’s common to spend money on bundles of hair instead of investing time into your own hair. Take the time and help someone on there journey. I have had quite a lot of woman ask me things about hair. Every person who asked me I gave them either resources or gave them the knowledge of what I knew. When I am in the mood to look at hair techniques I’m looking for hours, I’m researching products, blogs, vlogs and YouTube like crazy.

My Final Thoughts:

I am gaining knowledge about my hair and its empowering to me. My natural is empowering to me. Somedays I hate doing my hair and other days I am blessed that my hair is healthy and that I have the funds to take care of my hair. Invest time in your hair. Invest the time for yourself. 

1.Products from Pampered & Twisted! Here is the website just in case you gals wants to check it out.
2. This is what my hair looks like with the Chocolate Hair Mask in. My hair is so super soft and the curls are defined. 

3. I always wanted to do one of these things. So I did. Check out my Instagram Ebony_Monaes_Thoughts. I show you how I achieved this look. Can anyone tell me my hair type? I feel like its a bit of everything. My colorist doesn’t like to go by that. He says curls are curls. I am just curious is all.    

5. These photos are me with my protective braids. Those edges are slicked babyyy lol.(this pic below and above I used the Eco Styler).

6.Last but not least this photo is my hair blown out and flat ironed. I love and hate my hair in this state. I hate the maintenance of it. Bumping the ends in the morning. The upkeep is not worth it to me.

One thing I want a reader to get out of this post is to love your hair and to help someone else on there natural hair journey.  Love this journey your on. Like I wrote above its empowering. 

Happily Natural<3

Ebony Monae<3



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❤️Two Years Natural❤️

April 13th marked two years since I have been natural. Wow what a journey it has been for me. It has been a love /hate relationship with my hair.  Growing up I had long thick hair but trying to fit in with the other girls I asked for a perm and being to young to understand the care it needed I didn’t take care of it causing my hair to be so damaged it fell out.

One day I looked at my hair it it was so damaged from excessive heat, perms and extensions. I was so mad at myself for letting my hair look this bad. I was trying too hard to fit in and keep up with the styles that I forgot to take care of my hair. In the end I decided to go natural and It was the best choice I have ever done in my life. In October of 2012 I went to my friends house and she cut all the damaged hair off. My hair was maybe a inch long. It was a scary road for me to be embarking on, but I did it. In April of 2013 I had my last perm and it was just my edges or the crown that was permed for a friends wedding I attended.

Now I AM NOT a hair person. Some woman were blessed with being able to do their hair and all these elaborate styles like my sister but I was not. So trying to do my hair in its transition state was very hard because my hair was two different textures. I went through so many products until I felt I got the product that worked best for my hair. The products I use are posted below. I love Miss Jessie’s products my hair feels so soft and my curl pattern is more defined when I use them.

As mentioned above taking this journey was hard to do because I am already self conscious about my appearance and trying to do my hair was something I have struggled with all my life. I could never quite get it to where I want it. Now no one can tell me nothing. I love my hair and I am way more confident in myself than I have ever been. My hair is not long as other naturals but it is healthy and strong. Thats all that matters to me, not the length but the strength of my hair (I like that phrase).

Being a natural is a choice that is not for everyone some woman love their extensions and perms and that is fine its a personal choice but if someone asks me what should they do with their hair I WILL ALWAYS say go natural because the love I have for this journey I embarked on is something that means a lot to me and I want everyone to experience it. I started this journey not knowing what to expect and I sit here as I type this post in love with the outcome. I am still on a journey with my hair, I am trying new styles and colors  but I am being conscious of the the products I put in my hair.

Check out my YouTube page as I will be adding more videos as I go.

xOxO Ebony Monae xOxO


I am in love with my HAIR💜!!!!


About the Author!


I am Ebony Monae and this is my blog so WELCOME.  This blog is about many different things from Natural Hair, (Yes I am an natural haired chica), book reviews, movie reviews, national news topics, poetry, the age old question who’s is better Superman or Batman, make up and much much more I assure you. My mind has so many things that are constantly running through it and if I don’t write it down I will forget it and some of those ideas are probably good ideas if I say so myself. On this blog I will always be myself, be open and honest about my thoughts/opinions.

So about me:

I love to read its one of my many passions. I love romances (most people think its trash reading) but I love it. Some authors have the ability to take a reader to the another place and time and actually experience what the character is feeling. Now that I am starting to write my own novella its really hard to word it the way the reader can understand what you are trying to portray. Like I was saying above reading romances novels just makes me hope that one day I will find my prince charming, my 50 Shades or my Alpha male. I also like to read paranormals because some authors imagination can make them ask yourself do vampires exist? All my book reviews will be posted up here, on amazon and on Goodreads. If you are a reader then you should have a goodreads account. It is amazeballs besides keeping track of your books that you have read you can also write reviews, read others reviews, have different reading challenges such as the one I have for 2015 I have pledged to read 150 books this year and I want to see if I can do it. I never really thought about how many books I read a year this year I want to challenge myself to see if I can read this many books.

I am also the biggest film geek. I took a film class while doing my undergrad and it was like I just fell in love with movies. This class opened my eyes to classics and made me really appreciate the oldies. I love going to the movies and I try to go to the movies once a week to see the latest movies that came out that interest me. The trick is you go on the days that they have them the cheapest or hell even a matinee. I have to save money any way I can because I am still a college student. Just because I have school debt I don’t want to stop doing things I love. I love to write reviews.  The reviews of the movies I see will put up on here as well.

I also write slam poetry and I love to listen to others on youtube. I have not read a slam yet but thats one of my challenges for this year. This brings me back to books because one of my favorite authors are Colleen Hoover and she wrote a book that contained slam poetry and it opened my eyes to give it a try. A friend of mine tried this because we share books most of the time and we challenged ourselves to see if we can write one and I did. It was eye opening to see what the human mind can do. Our poems were great if I say so myself. So when in the mood to write poetry I just do it just comes now.

In closing I just want to say that this year is all about me being a better person, stronger, healthier, kind, caring, loving, and compassionate. I want to do things that I was to scared to do before. I am stepping out of my comfort zone this year. I am taking a pledge to be more than I was last year. No longer will I let others put me down or dictate my feelings or even make me feel inferior. I will tell people how I feel even if it means hurting their feelings. This year I WILL SHINE!!

I hope who ever is reading this will follow my blog and if you have one I will do the same.