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Accepting Myself 💕

Hey Loves,

This week I want us to practice acceptance of ourselves. This post is one of the realist ones I have written. I feel it’s time to.

This is me in 2011 at the age of 21.

You wouldn’t know it but I am struggling with body acceptance in this photo. I thought I was fat. I thought I was ugly. I wouldn’t never have my hair natural it had to be permed and blown silky straight.

Now this is the most recent full body photo I have. This was September 2017 at the age of 27.

This photo I am still struggling with body acceptance. I let go of some misconceptions I had about myself. I LOVE my natural hair. I don’t ever have it straightened unless I feel like it. I struggle to see the beauty in myself at times.

I struggle with acceptance of my body. Growing up it was hard. I fully believe loving oneself starts at home where your more comfortable with family. It was not like that for me. I was more developed up top than most girls. My mother would always bring that to my attention and put me down for it like I could control my genetics. She would buy me big shirts to

hide my breast and make me where them. I had to listen to negative comments about myself and my weight. Hearing negative thoughts all your childhood has great impact on who your are in your adulthood.

I’m at a age where I can’t blame my mother for it any longer. I understand it’s time for me to accept me for me. But it’s so damn hard.

Today I want to encourage men and woman to love you for you. I know it’s not easy but start small. Here’s some tips I suggest:

  1. Have your friends text you encouraging words everyday.
  2. Download Pinterest and find uplifting and encouraging wallpapers for your phone that you like.
  3. Have a mirror and a dry erase marker? If you do, write some encouraging words to yourself.
  4. Have post it’s and a sharpie? Leave stickies in hidden places so you can find them randomly.

Gabby quote is so inspiring. It’s time we love our bodies💜

One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body. I got tired of hating myself. < em> -Gabourey Sidibe Let’s begin the journey of self acceptance together. It’s going to rough road but I am ready. Are You?!?

XoXo 😘,

EM

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Let It GO

Morning Sunshines,

As you know this week its all about #selfcare. I want to just focus on me this week. I plan on mediating this morning and I’m going to burn some sage to clear my aura. I am starting to feel lighter and so much better. Todays topic is letting go. Even if that includes people.

A couple of months ago I had my heart broken in two, besides being devastated I felt like a damn fool. When I felt like this all those insecurities started to enter my mind. I started to ask myself if I was good enough? Am I pretty enough? I started to degrade myself. Started to feel unworthy.  What I should of told myself “Yes I Am Enough”

During that time I didn’t want to face the truth, so I closed myself off and wallowed in my pain. This was also a reason I didn’t blog. I felt like a damn fraud to my readers. I encouraged you to walk away from hurtful people, yet I didn’t. I let this person back into my life. I fell for the lies and I fell hard.  For the last couple of months I carried that hurt with me, but  TODAY its gone  You want to know why? Because it is not my pain to carry. I gave my all to a person who was not ready, but I don’t deserve to allow that pain to stay with me.

I came to realization that what is meant to be is meant to be. I had to learn to let go of something that was not good for me. I will say during that time I didn’t want to hear that, didn’t want to see that. Now reflecting on it, I am glad it ended the way it did because NOW I know what I deserve. NOW I know better. NOW I am stronger. To anyone going through heartbreak know that it gets better. Know that you learn to smile through the pain and the first breath after letting it all go is the most beautiful sound you will ever hear.

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go!

Breathing Easier💜

EM

 

 

 

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I’m Giving You Life Today

Good morning. If you read my previous post(if you didn’t what are you waiting for go read it!) then you will understand my theme for this week is #self-care.

The quote embodies all that I been feeling lately. My post to you today is take that leap. When I’m about to step out of my comfort zone, my heart starts to beat really fast. I know it’s my nerves, but I take that as an opportunity to go forward. It’s my universal sign to do take that leap of faith.

So do that. Write down something that makes your heart beat fast. Follow your passion. Don’t forget about yourself. Don’t forget about what you want out of this life.

Xoxo,

EM💜

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Self-Care 101

Hey loves, its been months since I last written. I hope my post uplifts and inspires you.

Where do I begin, for the last few months my life has been the same. In one word I can perfectly summarize my life; adulting (is having adult responsibilities)

I became so wrapped up in adulting that I forgot about myself. Forgot about my inner self. Forgot to feed my soul. Forgot about my journey to a happier, stronger me. Forgot about my blog. That saddened me the most as I use to look forward to this everyday.

So I took a trip down memory lane. I read my old posts. Read your comments. Read my fellow bloggers post. I needed to awaken my soul.

 

It did the trick. My whole aura has changed. I feel different, more alive than I felt in months.

My message to you today is find your way back to you. Find your way back to what balances you. Don’t get consumed by everyday life you forget about you.

#Self-Care is important. Don’t forget that.

Stay blessed,

EM💜

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Self-Love & Relationships

Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!

 

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Millennial with a Budget!

Good Morning. Happy Tuesday. 

All month long is self care month for me. Taking care of yourself is essential. Follow my Instagram be_inspired_by_ebony for daily posts. I may not post up here everyday but I’m always on IG with quotes and life skills. 

Continuing on with self care month. I’m working on creating a budget and spending within my means. I have noticed that my spending is getting way out of control. I used the Mint App to really help me understand my spending. For this month I have sat down and planned all my bills in my planner. With the holiday season upon I us I want to be extra careful of my spending now to make sure I get gifts for my familia. 

My top points on budgeting is as follows:

1.Arrange all your bills for the month. If you have a planner. (I also right my payday down as well.It’s helpful for me.) Ex:

2.One thing that helps me is when I get paid I try to write down everything that needs to get paid so I know how much I have left to spend on things I need. I also have a savings account set up where it automatically takes out funds as well. Right now it’s $20 every week (judge free zone guys cuz it is way better than what I was putting before, which was nothing.) Ex:

3. Next thing I try to do is watch what I’m spending my money on. I have to ask myself “Ebony do you need this?”Or “is this worth the price?” Personally I’m a sucker for hair care products and shoes. I have to remind myself that if I don’t need it, I shouldn’t get it. 

Some facts to consider:

  • 69% of American have less than $1,000 in savings. 
  • 34% have no savings. 
  • Milleninals are spending more than they make (living above there means). 
  • 74% of milleninals have less than $1,000 in there savings. 
  • 31% have zero. 
  • Ideally you would want six months worth of living expenses saved up. 

This website contains more information. It’s where I got my sources from. http://finance.yahoo.com/news/heres-much-average-millennial-savings-182226193.html

My goal is to be mindful of my spending and to have money for a rainy day. If you have any suggestions or ideas on how to save please comment and let me know. I would love to hear. 

Stay Blessed, 

ps, 

A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went. 

                            -Dave Ramsey