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Start Living Your Best Life

Good Afternoon Loves,

So many things to say today and not enough time( I’m adulting and at work today), I will keep it short and sweet.

I want to encourage everyone to live there best life. Don’t let fear stop you from living your best life. Life is way to short to have regrets.

If you let fear dictate your life your not really living. Take it from me. I let someone I know in my heart that wasn’t good for me back in my life because I was scared of dating. Scared of putting myself out there.

This past weekend I walked away. I chose my happiness and I joined a dating app. I decided fear doesn’t get to control me.

What will your decision be today?

XoXo 😘,


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Trust Him

Morning Loves,

This morning my heart is still heavy. As mentioned yesterday my friend lost her son. I’m still coming to terms with it myself. In moments like this you want to be supportive and be there for your friends. I still don’t know what to say that will make it okay. That will ease her pain. In times like this I’m learning to trust my on my own faith.

For anyone that’s going through anything. Trust on your faith.

Know that God will get you through it. Sometimes it’s hard to hear that but know God is there. When I feel like my back is to the wall I always say “God won’t give me more than I can handle.” I repeat it all the time and that simple phrase gets me through it. I feel empowered because he knows what I can handle.

Keeping the Faith,



Baby girl I love you more than you know. No words can heal your heart right now but know I am here always.

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Thank You And Happy Birthday!! 

Thank You Dr. Martin Luther King. Because of you and others, people of color and other races have come a long way towards equality. You gave us a voice. Growing up my grandmother use to sing you praises. Young me thought why? He’s just another preacher. She sat me down and explained to me that you were more.  You were a vision of hope. She described what life was like growing up in the south. She recalled not facing extreme racism like her brothers and sisters due to her lighter skin tone but she remembered how she felt. She felt worthless. 

My grandmother engrained in me to be humble and most of all thankful. Young me wouldn’t understand the significance of her words until later on in my life. 

I won’t put you on a pedalstool because like any other human you had flaws. But I will say that you paved the way for young people like me to not have to take a seat in the back of the bus, a right to equal education, the right to be African America in a country when racicm is still much alive. 

Your bravery and courage paved the way for a black man to be President of the United States. 

It saddens me to see young men and woman forgetting about the people who fought and died for some of the luxuries they have today. It saddens me to see the younger generation putting pop stars as there idols based on looks and the money they flash around. 

It breaks my heart to see we have entered an era where young men and woman are dying at the hands of police officers and that our legal system is failing them.  Justice is not being served. It’s time we all stand up for what matters. No longer should we be silent on these matters. 
We have a voice and it’s our turn to take up the torch and march forward. 


Ebony Monae


Wishing you a very special Birthday in Heaven!! 

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Reflection of 2015💗

As 2015 ended and 2016 begins. I felt the need to reflect back on several things this past year that I have been through and overcame!

I was sick.  But I made it through. I was literally seeing a hematologist everyweek. Having 12 big vials of blood drawn out every week. One problem affected all the other health problems I had going on. Some days I wanted to give up. But I had to believe God had better plans for my life. When I felt like I couldn’t go on. I got the strength to go on. When I felt alone my best friend was by myside through it all. 

 I learned that life is precious and it’s time to leave my comfort zone.  Going through a lot of health problems has taught me this. Life is supposed to be lived. I refuse to live by the sidelines.

Family! I let that go. I embraced my non-tradional family. That’s means I was adopted by a family that loved me. I was adopted into a family at the age of five that for years I felt like I didn’t belong because I wouldn’t conform to there way of thinking. For years I was hurt because I felt unloved by them, I tried to make them love me. Let me work harder in school, let me let them use me to show them I will always be there. They didn’t understand me. I learned that the siblings you grow up with or parents who raise you doesn’t intentionally mean that they have to be your family. I learned that the people who were suppose to by my side during my darkest days were not. Through a lot of reflection I learned that it’s okay.  I can’t make people love me. I can’t make people be there for me. I can’t change who I am to be someone I a not so they can like me. I also learned that my non traditional family is my family. I am loved and I am accepted flaws and all. 

I am learning to love Ebony Monae.  I have let people make me feel worthless, ugly, unlovable. This year it stopped. My friend told me I had to look at myself objectively. What did I see when I looked at myself. I saw a fighter. When life got hard I kept on pushing. When people doubted me I showed them what I am made of. When people who I loved hurt me, I learned to let go. That for me is the hardest thing to do. When I look in the mirror I see beauty, not just my outward appearance but my inner beauty is shining through. I see a kind spirit. Someone who loves to laugh and make others do the same. 

I am not perfect. I learned that it’s okay to fail. To make mistakes. Life is all about growth. Make mistakes and learn from them. Fail but always get back up. 

In 2016 I want to do so many things and nothing will Stop Me!! 

In 2016 I promise to:

Live Life! 

Love 💜 Myself! 


Make Mistakes! 


Be Kind! 

Be Genergous! 

Love, Freely/Hard!!! 

Be Healthy!!


Xoxo Ebony Monae Xoxo


Wishing everyone a Happy New Year! May we all work on things this year that brings us happiness! 

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Happy Birthday to Me💜

I  turned twenty-six on Sunday October 25th. First and foremost I want to thank the Lord for blessing me with another year on this earth. With all my health problems this past year I didn’t know if I would make it this far.

Twenty-six years ago my biological mother gave birth to me on Wednesday October 25th at 7:28am. Six years later I was placed in a foster home and adopted a year later. As I do every year I wonder if you think of me on this day. The little girl your gave life too. I wonder do you think about the person I have become? Do you think about my smile if I have yours or my fathers? Do you pray for my safe keeping? Do you think about the silly things I do?

Since I don’t know where to look for you. I want you to know a few things about me. My favorite color is purple. My greatest fear is to be alone and to be a disappointment to someone.  My greatest accomplishment in this world will never be menial things but making a difference in this world with my words or actions. I want you to know that I’m doing fine. Some days are hard, but I know I am blessed because I have great friends and family. My best friend is my rock when my world turns dark. She see’s me at my worst but always loves me just the same. I want you to know that I’m on the road to greatness. I am going to do something with my life. I will make a difference.  To know That I’m following my dreams. People have doubted that I would even make it. But I am. I want you to know that I think of you. That I wonder if I look like you. I see my niece, your grandchild and I wonder if she would ever get to meet you or to the know you.

These words of mines most likely will never reach your eyes, but these words come from my heart. My final words to you are I Forgive You. 

Forever your little girl, 



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When They Don’t Add Value To Your Life 👋🏾 BYE FELICIA 👋🏾


 To many times guys and females try to stop a person from moving foward with there life. In all honesty it’s a shame. As a human being we should want someone to achieve whatever they set there minds to. But sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. 

I met a guy and I knew from the start that he was not going to add any type of value to my life but just headache and heartache. So i told him we are in two different places in our lives. It actually felt good to be a upfront and honest. He didn’t like what I had to say but he accepted it. That’s also another thing I should mention. If we know they are not going to do anything for us, DO NOT STRING ALONG. LET THEM GO!! We are no better than they are if we tag them along. It’s better to be open and honest with them from the start. 

As a I am getting older I have come to terms with that I can do bad all by myself. I do not need a guy in my life that won’t bring anything to the table. In that case I will rather eat alone.  

Final thoughts: Don’t be in any relationship if a  person is going to stop you from doing something great with your life. You only have one life. Make it the most beautifully lived life you can because life is to beautiful not to be lived💜

💗 Ebony Monae 💗

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💗Relationship Goals💗

I think this movie summed up what a relationship is like. A relationship is hard work and you have to consistently work at it. There will be bad days and good days.  If that person is willing to love you and work at that relationship don’t give up Follow Your Heart💜

XoXo EbonyMonae XoXo

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🔥Slow Dancing in Burning Room🔥

The words of this song just speaks to me. When you love someone even when you know that person is not for. Even when you know that there is someone out there so much better than them. Even when you know that relationship is doomed from the start. Your heart just wants what your heart wants. After all the tears and the pain you know you LOVE yourself more this time around. I find myself picking up the phone wanting to call you to see how your doing more than anything. I find myself just day dreaming about us what could have been.  The hardest thing I had to do was walk away from something that I knew was not for me. People reading this is probably like she is crazy that is the easiest thing. But it is not, not when you loved someone with all your heart and soul. Not when you gave your all and all your firsts to this person. Not when you fought so hard to be together. The heart is a funny organism it plays tricks on you. It loves the people who are not good for us but it does not love the ones are the best for us. Too all those that left because you knew that you were slow dancing in a burning in a room, this post is for you. Too finding new love, too finding yourself, too living a life free of tears THIS BLOG POST IS FOR US.

💜💜 EbonyMonae 💜💜

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👑I See a Queen 👑


What we see is what we PROJECT. This a powerful picture. Too often we tear down little girls who dream they could be anything they want to be. This little girl sees a queen in herself and rightfully so. 

It’s time to uplift girls of all ages. Let them know they are beautifully and wonderfully made.  We have that power now to do this especially in a generation where the media constantly tells them differently. Be that voice of reason for them 💜💜

💜 Ebony💜Monae 💜