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Medating

Morning Loves. Rise and shine!!!

Last Friday with my therapist she helped me mediate. Let me tell you it was so calming and relaxing. Now I have tried to mediate in the past but it did not work but with the help of my therapist it was amazing.

Everything was relaxed. The reason why I started to mediate was because I suffer from depression and I am really scared about taking medication. I come from a family of drug addicts and it scares me to get hooked on any type of drug. So I want to find more natural ways of helping with my depression rather than taking medications. Mediation is really good for the body and it helps me with my anxiety.

There are different ways to mediate. Do some research and find what works best for you. As for me. I don’t need music. The lights have to be dimmed down low. I have to guide myself into it with deep breaths starting wth my feet and working my way up to my head. This relaxes each part of my body.I also say breath in love and acceptance and breath out pain and anger. I stay in a relaxed state for about 5-10mins.

Give mediation a try. Relax your mind and body.

Ébony

ps,

Buddha was asked what have you gained from mediation? 

He replied “Nothing! However let me tell you what I have lost. Anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”

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It’s Valentines Day Peeps 

This post is for the people that have a good girl and guy but treat them like shit. I’m going to give you some heartfelt advice. If you know your not doing right by then LEAVE THEM ALONE!! 

I’m tired of seeing good people getting there hearts broken by no good people. 

People like that are just plain ol’selfish to me. You know that your not in a good head place to date someone but you still want to. That to me is SELFISH!!

If you know want to play the field still don’t get into a relationship. If you know you don’t have the heart to love someone other than yourself don’t get into a relationship. If you know your a gold digger don’t get into a relationship. If you know your not in love with them walk away nothing hurts more than false hopes. 

Let those good people go find someone that can truly love them and treat them the way they should be treated because you know they deserve it. Be the bigger person and walk away before you destroy them and the next person has to pay for your mistakes. 

To the true lovers of the world I wish you nothing but bliss. Have a wonderful love filled day. To the selfish lovers of the world have a heart and let them GO!!!

XoXo,

E

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I’m Scared! 

I don’t even know where to begin with this post so I’m just going to start. 

When I was 25 I was diagnosed with AVNRT which is Atrioventricular Nodal Reentry Tachycardia. Which basically means I was born with an extra piece of tissue in my heart and sometimes the electricity in my heart hits it and throws off the heartbeat which causes me to have palpitations, chest pain, tightening of chess and etc. 

When I heard that at 25 I was just like this is can’t be real. I have been healthy my whole life. I first had those symptoms in early November  of 2014 I ended up going to the hospital and they found something totally different. Now that I think about it this diagnosis saved my life. By the time I got to the hospital the symptoms where gone but they found I had a pulmonary embolism on my lung which is a blood clot.    

They ended up treating me for that but two weeks later I’m right back in the ER for the AVNRT. It was pretty scary ordeal. I had people everywhich way. I felt like I was on an epeisode of ER. That was the night they diagnosed me.

 For the past three years I have been dealing with this. It’s been pretty damn scary. Most people might think I’m complaining because other people are way more sicker than me. Which I get but in that moment in my life I was scared. I didn’t know if my heart was going to go out, have a heart attack, or my blood clots came back. I was plain ol’ scared out of my mind. You know what I didn’t tell anybody just kind of put it out of my mind type of thing. When the symptoms came I knew how to stop them until last week. Because now my fear is back. 

Last week I couldn’t stop them those symptoms came back x10. I felt like I was having a heart attack (never had a heart attack) but sure felt like I was dying. 

Now I have to do a procedure where they have to basically cut off that piece of  tissue. It’s an in and out procedure but I’m freaking scared. Anything can go wrong. There’s a possibility they may not find it or a possibility it can be something else entirely. 

I still don’t know why I am writing this post. I guess just to put my fears to blog (hahaha can’t say paper).  I can say I feel better about the whole dang on thing. Still pretty scared but I feel better got my thoughts out. 

Xoxo,

E

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It’s Okay to Walk Away 

Morning sunshines. 

Happy Tuesday!! 

Have a positive day. 
It’s no shame in walking away. You did this for yourself. Don’t let anyone let you feel bad about your choice to walk away. Be proud of yourself. No one deserves to stay in a relationship of any kind where they are unhappy. Stand strong in your decision and for once choose yourself💜

Love,

E
ps,

Remember lifes to short to be unhappy. 

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To The Dark Skin Beauties

Morning loves. Happy Sunday!! 

This post is for the girls that were told “Your pretty for a dark skin girl(s).”

Please like this post if you have ever been told that above. I HATE those seven words with a fierce passion. Why can’t I be beautiful because of my dark skin?

Growing up I was always made fun of because of my skin color. My siblings would call me “blacky” all the time due to the name calling I would grow up to hate my skin tone. I will never forget the time I was introduced to Coco Butter. I used that every day morning and night. About four months into using it my mother noticed my skin changing. She asked me what was going on with my face. I told her “I don’t know I’m just becoming lighter.” Around the six month mark she finally caught on to what I was doing by this time it was two late the damaged was already done. I had lights spots on my cheeks but the rest of my face was dark. Thus having me being called “two toned”. My thinking at that time was if I was lighter I would be beautiful. If I was lighter I would not be made fun of. If I was lighter boys would notice me. 

In my haste to lighten my skin didn’t realize that you had to put it all over your face and not just on the areas you didn’t like. It took years for my skin to become back to normal. Even now its tough to find certain foundations. 

I was not raised to love my skin until I got older and realized that my skin was not going anywhere. It is apart of me. Take this time to look into the mirror and see that beauty that is you. 

If you take away anything from this post. Understand that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR SKIN IS BEAUTIFUL. Your skin color does not determine if your  a pretty or not. I came across this video by Buzzfeed about dark skin and how people from various cultures go through this. Take a look at it. I have included it in bottom of this post. 

Ps, 

I love my skin 💜💜 

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Self-Love & Relationships

Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!

 

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There Will Be Days 


Some days it’s going to pour. Some days it won’t. 

Life is made up of these days. I’m testament to this. I have experienced some of the worst days of my life. Let me tell you on those days it definitely poured. I didn’t know how to get my life back on track. I prayed and asked god to guide me. 

I’m standing here in Gods grace as I type this post to you. My life is not perfect but it’s not what it use to be. 

My point of this post is to know that when it rains just know that god has plans for beautiful flowers to grow. You may doubt him and become angry with him but know your life is going to be okay.   

Always, 

E

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1 Year 

As we prepare to lay down for the night. I want to you to think about what the next 364 days will hold for you. Think about all the things you want to do.  


It’s a blank book. Get up tomorrow and start living your destiny. I encourage and inpire you to live this life that your thinking about.

Until tomorrow my loves sweet dreams. 

-E

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Forgiveness 

Morning💜, 

I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday. 

It’s the last week of the year. As you know this month has been about self-care for me. This week I’m practicing forgiveness. I’m forgiving others so my spirit can be at peace. 

Over the last week I have been spending more time with my family since my aunt is visiting from North Carolina. What stood out to me the most was seeing my mom bring up things from almost twenty years ago. I had to tell my mom to let it go. Your blaming my aunt for something she had no control over. Let it go. Forgive my grandmother for what happened and move on. That hurt and pain you have been carrying for way too long. Give your heart peace. 

 For all those who hurt me and wronged me I forgive you. I wish you nothing but the best in life. 

This week I want to inspire  you to forgive those who have wronged you and move on with your life. Leave the pain and the hurt in 2016. Walk into 2017 with forgiveness in your heart. 

XoXo, 

E

ps, 

forgiveness is not about letting someone off the hook for there actions, but freeing ourselves of negative energies that bind us to them.  

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What Is It Like?

What Is It Like To Be You? 

Morning!

Last night I was watching the ending of the movie The Help. Which is a good movie by the way. I hope you have seen it. Well in the movie Viola Davis character stated,  “No one ever asked me what is it like to be me?”

That profound statement stuck to me. What is it like to be you? BE ME? I would think that I had some profound answer to this question but honestly I do not. You know why? Because I never asked myself that question.

To my readers what is it like to be you? Do you have any profound answers? I would love to know. Leave a comment please and thank you. One thing I would suggest is to be honest with yourself. Sometimes truth hurts but it can also make you realize a lot of things in your life.

As always Be Inspired<3

-E

ps,

“You is smart, you is kind, you is important!”