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Medating

Morning Loves. Rise and shine!!!

Last Friday with my therapist she helped me mediate. Let me tell you it was so calming and relaxing. Now I have tried to mediate in the past but it did not work but with the help of my therapist it was amazing.

Everything was relaxed. The reason why I started to mediate was because I suffer from depression and I am really scared about taking medication. I come from a family of drug addicts and it scares me to get hooked on any type of drug. So I want to find more natural ways of helping with my depression rather than taking medications. Mediation is really good for the body and it helps me with my anxiety.

There are different ways to mediate. Do some research and find what works best for you. As for me. I don’t need music. The lights have to be dimmed down low. I have to guide myself into it with deep breaths starting wth my feet and working my way up to my head. This relaxes each part of my body.I also say breath in love and acceptance and breath out pain and anger. I stay in a relaxed state for about 5-10mins.

Give mediation a try. Relax your mind and body.

Ébony

ps,

Buddha was asked what have you gained from mediation? 

He replied “Nothing! However let me tell you what I have lost. Anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”

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Respect!!!

Morning Loves. Happy Saturday. I hope that you have an amazing day. I hope you are feeling yourself today.

A  friend of mines is going through some relationship troubles right now. She asked me to write about it for her on my post for today because she felt that I gave her some good advice. Throughout her whole spiel. The main thing that stuck out from what she was telling me  was that he did not respect her because if he did he would show it.

I can tend to be a little blunt when I am giving friends relationship advice. I am this way because I don’t want to sugar coat anything. I feel like people pacify these things.  You need to be direct and you need to be honest.

RESPECT!! You deserve it.

If they don’t respect you. LEAVE!! If they don’t respect you relationship LEAVE!!

“I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden… but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.”

-Steve Maraboli

One thing I learned is that if you don’t have respect for yourself no one will!!

Demand Respect in your relationship.

Same thing goes for the people that don’t treat your love one with respect. YOU  NEED TO END IT.

-E

ps,

Respect yourself if you don’t know one else will. 

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Self-Image<3

Day 3 Self-Love Friday!!!

Morning people. Happy Friday!!!

Self-Love its important, it’s something we need. Something I know I lack daily. Today I want you to wake up and SAY “I am Beautiful. I am Gorgeous. I’M HERE TO SLAY!!

Go forth today and slay. Be Your Beautiful!!

 

-Love E

ps,

STOP!

Hating yourself for what you aren’t.

START.

LOVING yourself for everything you are. 

 

 

 

 

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Self-Love & Relationships

Happy February!!

Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.

Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.

Relationships are not easy. They are hard work.  I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.

As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!

 

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There Will Be Days 


Some days it’s going to pour. Some days it won’t. 

Life is made up of these days. I’m testament to this. I have experienced some of the worst days of my life. Let me tell you on those days it definitely poured. I didn’t know how to get my life back on track. I prayed and asked god to guide me. 

I’m standing here in Gods grace as I type this post to you. My life is not perfect but it’s not what it use to be. 

My point of this post is to know that when it rains just know that god has plans for beautiful flowers to grow. You may doubt him and become angry with him but know your life is going to be okay.   

Always, 

E

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What Is It Like?

What Is It Like To Be You? 

Morning!

Last night I was watching the ending of the movie The Help. Which is a good movie by the way. I hope you have seen it. Well in the movie Viola Davis character stated,  “No one ever asked me what is it like to be me?”

That profound statement stuck to me. What is it like to be you? BE ME? I would think that I had some profound answer to this question but honestly I do not. You know why? Because I never asked myself that question.

To my readers what is it like to be you? Do you have any profound answers? I would love to know. Leave a comment please and thank you. One thing I would suggest is to be honest with yourself. Sometimes truth hurts but it can also make you realize a lot of things in your life.

As always Be Inspired<3

-E

ps,

“You is smart, you is kind, you is important!”

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Don’t You Worry!! 

Morning loves,

If your anything like me your always worrying about tomorrow. My advice to you, DON’T. This quote somes it all up perfectly. What’s coming will come. Don’t worry about it. Everything will fall into place. Live your life in the meantime. Tackle everything as it comes. 

Hope your practicing self-care this month and just honoring thy self💜.

-E

ps, 

Let go and let God. 

 

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Millennial with a Budget!

Good Morning. Happy Tuesday. 

All month long is self care month for me. Taking care of yourself is essential. Follow my Instagram be_inspired_by_ebony for daily posts. I may not post up here everyday but I’m always on IG with quotes and life skills. 

Continuing on with self care month. I’m working on creating a budget and spending within my means. I have noticed that my spending is getting way out of control. I used the Mint App to really help me understand my spending. For this month I have sat down and planned all my bills in my planner. With the holiday season upon I us I want to be extra careful of my spending now to make sure I get gifts for my familia. 

My top points on budgeting is as follows:

1.Arrange all your bills for the month. If you have a planner. (I also right my payday down as well.It’s helpful for me.) Ex:

2.One thing that helps me is when I get paid I try to write down everything that needs to get paid so I know how much I have left to spend on things I need. I also have a savings account set up where it automatically takes out funds as well. Right now it’s $20 every week (judge free zone guys cuz it is way better than what I was putting before, which was nothing.) Ex:

3. Next thing I try to do is watch what I’m spending my money on. I have to ask myself “Ebony do you need this?”Or “is this worth the price?” Personally I’m a sucker for hair care products and shoes. I have to remind myself that if I don’t need it, I shouldn’t get it. 

Some facts to consider:

  • 69% of American have less than $1,000 in savings. 
  • 34% have no savings. 
  • Milleninals are spending more than they make (living above there means). 
  • 74% of milleninals have less than $1,000 in there savings. 
  • 31% have zero. 
  • Ideally you would want six months worth of living expenses saved up. 

This website contains more information. It’s where I got my sources from. http://finance.yahoo.com/news/heres-much-average-millennial-savings-182226193.html

My goal is to be mindful of my spending and to have money for a rainy day. If you have any suggestions or ideas on how to save please comment and let me know. I would love to hear. 

Stay Blessed, 

ps, 

A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went. 

                            -Dave Ramsey

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Deeply Saddened yet Deeply Moved

Good morning guys. Its been a while since I have written. To be honest I have been going some mild depression. I am managing my depression now with the help of my therapist and psychiatrist so I’m on a road to recovery to being my best self I can be, but that will be a story for another day.

Today I want to talk about how shocked I am about what happened on Tuesday. I still am in shock. I am angered by the pure hatred I have seen on social media. On top of that I am overwhelmed by the amount 0f love and support I have also seen.

Tuesday I had to unfriend a few people on my social media accounts. They were people who I knew from my childhood. One thing I learned from Tuesday was that who you thought you knew, you really didn’t know that well after all. On Tuesday I learned that racism, discrimination, misogyny, homophobia were not deal breakers for people. I also saw humanity at its best. 

People have told me that I should just get over it Trump won. People told me that its just four years.  One thing I won’t be is SILENT. One thing I have learned is that Silence = Compliance. I am not silent about the things that matter to me. I won’t stay quiet when racism is running rampant. I have friends and family of different faiths, sexual orientations and creeds. I will fight for them. I will help take downs walls that people have built and if in that four years I have children I will raise them to do the same.

EbonY Monae

ps, 

I don’t mind differnces of opinions but, I do mind hate. 

                        -Anonymous

 

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It’s Your Voice, Use It

Mawning sunshines, Happy Monday.

Today I want you remind you that you have a voice and that its in your right to use it. Some of us for to long felt like we didn’t have a voice. Let me remind you that you DO. 

I know what its like to not to use your voice. I was in that predicament for years. Just taking and taking and never ever speaking up. Until one day I did. I took back my voice. I spoke up about everything that hurt me and that no longer benefitted me. So take back your voice and speak up.

Xoxo,

Ebony Monae

ps, 

“never stay quiet when it comes to your life<3”

                                                           -Ebony Monae