Today is the day you stop setting for that person you know is not good for you. Today is the day YOU let go. I personally know that it’s hard because I hang on to people when I should have let them go along time ago. Remember that when you let go of what was you open yourself up to what is come.
Today I am a little bit more upbeat, than I have been these last few days.
Sometimes I meet people who think that there lives won’t ever inspire others. Hell even I think that but we forget that whatever we are going through can help someone. That roadblock you were on and got through, can inspire someone to get through there’s. That new job you were scared to go after but Finally Did. Can inspire someone to follow there dreams. That bad breakup you got over when you didn’t think you could but DID. Can inspire someone else.
So don’t think your story can’t inspire others because it can and to myself baby girl your story can inspire the masses to so don’t you forget that. (Sometimes in need that pep talk too💜)
Morning Loves. Happy Saturday. I hope that you have an amazing day. I hope you are feeling yourself today.
A friend of mines is going through some relationship troubles right now. She asked me to write about it for her on my post for today because she felt that I gave her some good advice. Throughout her whole spiel. The main thing that stuck out from what she was telling me was that he did not respect her because if he did he would show it.
I can tend to be a little blunt when I am giving friends relationship advice. I am this way because I don’t want to sugar coat anything. I feel like people pacify these things. You need to be direct and you need to be honest.
RESPECT!! You deserve it.
If they don’t respect you. LEAVE!! If they don’t respect you relationship LEAVE!!
“I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden… but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.”
-Steve Maraboli
One thing I learned is that if you don’t have respect for yourself no one will!!
Demand Respect in your relationship.
Same thing goes for the people that don’t treat your love one with respect. YOU NEED TO END IT.
Its been a long time no write (it was funny when I thought about it in my head) now it sounds corny but you know what? I am a corn ball so I’m going to leave it right up there.
Happy Feburaryyyyyyyyyy again. I can’t believe its the second month of 2017. With that being said I want to introduce something for the next 14 days I will doing. I will be dishing out some advice on self-love and relationships. Why? Because we get so caught up in relationship we forget about ourself’s.
Relationships are not easy. They are hard work. I will be giving some advice I have on relationships and some of the things I would have done/have not done in my relationships and wish I did. If you need advice or would like me to speak on a matter don’t hesitate to email me ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com
Now that its February people will begin to feel down because they are single for the month of LOVE but you know what fuck that(sorry for the language) We get so caught up in wanting to have a relationship that we forget that its okay to be single. BE SINGLE trust me its not the end of the world.
As the month begins don’t get all caught up in wanting to be in a relationship, BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SELF!!
Today I want you remind you that you have a voice and that its in your right to use it. Some of us for to long felt like we didn’t have a voice. Let me remind you that you DO.
I know what its like to not to use your voice. I was in that predicament for years. Just taking and taking and never ever speaking up. Until one day I did. I took back my voice. I spoke up about everything that hurt me and that no longer benefitted me. So take back your voice and speak up.
Hunny have respect for yourself. LOVE yourself. Do not let anyone put you down, make you feel worthless. You are beautiful! You are amazing! You are NOT what they said you are! The basis for all relationships is RESPECT.
Lauren Hill, she is just a beautiful soul. Take her words to heart. If she/he doesn’t respect you, then they don’t DESERVE you! I can attest to this. I been through it. I let them do that to me. In the end I learned myself worth. I learned that, NO you will not speak to me that way. NO you will not put me down, make me feel inferior. The day I said NO I started living for ME!
Furthermore do not go by what you see on TV. Nowadays you see these woman on these reality shows that let these men make them look like a fool. They have no respect for there relationships or the woman they are dating. Do Not be taken for a fool for any man/women that do not know how to be in a healthy and stable relationship! It’s not cute or healthy to be treated like that. Know Your Worth!
Lastly, it’s okay to be alone. Don’t be afraid of being alone. There is beauty in growing and learning about yourself. Don’t be disrespected. Don’t stand for that. I understand it’s not easy to walk a way, but understand this there is beauty in walking away!
This week Affirmation is that your uniquely you. I posted this picture a month or so back. On Friday it applied to my life.
On Friday I posted a picture of myself dressed as a some would say an hippie. This era to me reflects woman empowerment and how they really wanted change. Anyways that night I received ridicule and was made fun of for my outfit (personally I thought I looked cute). What I am trying to say I was living my life how I saw fit. I was BEING MYSELF. Those words could have changed my whole outlook. I could have let others thoughts define me. In the end I remember the ending of this quote “…live only as YOU can.”I Understood that my life was completely mines to do with it what I wanted to. I am living it how you see I fit.
One of the biggest things I want my readers to understand is that life is short. We are not promised tomorrow. With that being said be the person you want to be, live life on your own terms. Last Wednesday I wrote a post about taking a jump in your life. Now I want you to accept who you are. I want you to love the person who you are becoming. You are strong, brilliant, beautiful. I say this mantra to myself everyday. It reminds me where I came from. The girl with so much self hate and turmoil in her life. Everyday is a battle. So I remind myself that I am beautiful and I am enough.
Keep this in mind as you go about the rest of your week. Have fun. Love openly. Dance, sing or read but do it because you love it. Do it because it makes you happy. You don’t have to dance perfectly or sing on key. Sing and dance because it brings your spirit joy.
Good Morning! Happy First Day of March!!(this was suppose to be posted yesterday morning sorry).
Okay everyone I encourage you to watch this video. You don’t even have to read my words but PLEASE watch this video.
I saw this video below on my Facebook on Valentines Day. This video was moving because that very morning I was speaking with a coworker about how lost I was in my life. Then Steve Harvey speaks of something so life changing. Just Jump he states! “Don’t let fear keep you from ever taking that jump.” That was me. I was letting the fear of failure keep me back from doing something great with my life. He went on to say “god gave us each a gift at birth.” I will say that is something I have always struggled with the gift god has given me. I always ask myself what is this gift God gave me? I know God gave me a gift. I came to the realization that when its time he will reveal that gift to me. I also learned that it’s all about patience.
What Steve was speaking about touched my heart. He made me realize that is okay to take that jump. He went on to explain that when you jump you won’t land on your feet, you will get scars, scrapes AND you will bleed. You just have to remind yourself that do not let fear stop you.
“You can not exist in this life, you have got to try to live.”How moving is that one statement. Living life is one of the hardest things a person can do. Yea we are breathing. We get up and we go to work and then we come home. IS that living life? NO. We get so caught up in existing, we forget to live. We got to take our gift that God has given us and we have to JUMP.
My parting words to you. “If you do not Jump, your parachute with never open. You will never know what god really has for you.”
I saw this and it made me think about my past friendships. We don’t really think of life as party but if you put some thought into it; it really is. This quote perfectly sums it up. Thinking of all the people I called friend through out my life. It’s the person(s) you least expect to be around that stays with you. I personally didn’t know my best friend would be. I knew her since senior high. Thinking back I thought I would still be friends with all the girls from high school. Oh how naive and young I was. I don’t speak to any of them now. Those girls use to always talk so much smack about her but in all honesty she’s the only one with the genuine heart.
Take a moment to text or call your friend(s). Let them know your grateful for them to be in your life. That they stood by you when your life was a mess. Don’t you agree they deserve that text? I know my friend does. She’s amazing young woman. She’s my other half. No we are not lesbians but she’s the sister I have always wanted. She believes in me when I don’t believe in myself and vice versus. From family drama, to relationship drama she’s been through it all with me. Thank you Ornella 💜 you to the 🌛 and back.
Life gets busy for everyone but when someone takes time out of there busy life to be there for you speaks volumes.
Grateful,
Ebony Monae💜
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We all need a friend in life. We can’t get through this world without one.
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