Accepting Myself 💕

Hey Loves,

This week I want us to practice acceptance of ourselves. This post is one of the realist ones I have written. I feel it’s time to.

This is me in 2011 at the age of 21.

You wouldn’t know it but I am struggling with body acceptance in this photo. I thought I was fat. I thought I was ugly. I wouldn’t never have my hair natural it had to be permed and blown silky straight.

Now this is the most recent full body photo I have. This was September 2017 at the age of 27.

This photo I am still struggling with body acceptance. I let go of some misconceptions I had about myself. I LOVE my natural hair. I don’t ever have it straightened unless I feel like it. I struggle to see the beauty in myself at times.

I struggle with acceptance of my body. Growing up it was hard. I fully believe loving oneself starts at home where your more comfortable with family. It was not like that for me. I was more developed up top than most girls. My mother would always bring that to my attention and put me down for it like I could control my genetics. She would buy me big shirts to

hide my breast and make me where them. I had to listen to negative comments about myself and my weight. Hearing negative thoughts all your childhood has great impact on who your are in your adulthood.

I’m at a age where I can’t blame my mother for it any longer. I understand it’s time for me to accept me for me. But it’s so damn hard.

Today I want to encourage men and woman to love you for you. I know it’s not easy but start small. Here’s some tips I suggest:

1. Have your friends text you encouraging words everyday.
2. Download Pinterest and find uplifting and encouraging wallpapers for your phone that you like.
3. Have a mirror and a dry erase marker? If you do, write some encouraging words to yourself.
4. Have post it’s and a sharpie? Leave stickies in hidden places so you can find them randomly.

Gabby quote is so inspiring. It’s time we love our bodies💜

One day I had to sit down with myself and decide that I loved myself no matter what my body looked like and what other people thought about my body. I got tired of hating myself. < em> -Gabourey Sidibe Let’s begin the journey of self acceptance together. It’s going to rough road but I am ready. Are You?!?

XoXo 😘,

EM

Medating

Morning Loves. Rise and shine!!!

Last Friday with my therapist she helped me mediate. Let me tell you it was so calming and relaxing. Now I have tried to mediate in the past but it did not work but with the help of my therapist it was amazing.

Everything was relaxed. The reason why I started to mediate was because I suffer from depression and I am really scared about taking medication. I come from a family of drug addicts and it scares me to get hooked on any type of drug. So I want to find more natural ways of helping with my depression rather than taking medications. Mediation is really good for the body and it helps me with my anxiety.

There are different ways to mediate. Do some research and find what works best for you. As for me. I don’t need music. The lights have to be dimmed down low. I have to guide myself into it with deep breaths starting wth my feet and working my way up to my head. This relaxes each part of my body.I also say breath in love and acceptance and breath out pain and anger. I stay in a relaxed state for about 5-10mins.

Give mediation a try. Relax your mind and body.

Ébony

ps,

Buddha was asked what have you gained from mediation? 

He replied “Nothing! However let me tell you what I have lost. Anger, anxiety, depression, insecurity, fear of old age and death.”

Quote of the Day

Todays quote,

“I will always be prepared for my future, but I will never forget what I learned from my past.” 

-Ébony

ps, 

bottomline learn from your past so your future can be bright!! 

 

Respect!!!

Morning Loves. Happy Saturday. I hope that you have an amazing day. I hope you are feeling yourself today.

A  friend of mines is going through some relationship troubles right now. She asked me to write about it for her on my post for today because she felt that I gave her some good advice. Throughout her whole spiel. The main thing that stuck out from what she was telling me  was that he did not respect her because if he did he would show it.

I can tend to be a little blunt when I am giving friends relationship advice. I am this way because I don’t want to sugar coat anything. I feel like people pacify these things.  You need to be direct and you need to be honest.

RESPECT!! You deserve it.

If they don’t respect you. LEAVE!! If they don’t respect you relationship LEAVE!!

“I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden… but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.”

-Steve Maraboli

One thing I learned is that if you don’t have respect for yourself no one will!!

Demand Respect in your relationship.

Same thing goes for the people that don’t treat your love one with respect. YOU  NEED TO END IT.

-E

ps,

Respect yourself if you don’t know one else will. 

Self-Image<3

Day 3 Self-Love Friday!!!

Morning people. Happy Friday!!!

Self-Love its important, it’s something we need. Something I know I lack daily. Today I want you to wake up and SAY “I am Beautiful. I am Gorgeous. I’M HERE TO SLAY!!

Go forth today and slay. Be Your Beautiful!!

 

-Love E

ps,

STOP!

Hating yourself for what you aren’t.

START.

LOVING yourself for everything you are. 

 

 

 

 

Lets talk about FEELINGS!!

DAY 2 Topic Feelings!!

LADIES AND GENTS OPEN UP TO YOUR SPOUSES!!!

One of the things I regret in my previous relationships is not talking about my feelings. Telling them how I felt. I am the type that keeps things inside. Never opening up.  I would keep everything inside.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY PEOPLE!! Open up. If you not happy LET THEM KNOW.  If your upset LET THEM KNOW. If you sad LET THEM KNOW. Tell them how you feel.

Finally, the feelings that you both have should be equal as well as the effort in the relationship should be equal.

If you have anything you want to talk about don’t hesitate to email me at ebonymonaeblog@gmail.com

As always Be Inspired to live a life you LOVE<3

-E

 

Don’t You Worry!!

Morning loves,

If your anything like me your always worrying about tomorrow. My advice to you, DON’T. This quote somes it all up perfectly. What’s coming will come. Don’t worry about it. Everything will fall into place. Live your life in the meantime. Tackle everything as it comes. 

Hope your practicing self-care this month and just honoring thy self💜.

-E

ps, 

Let go and let God. 

 

It’s Your Voice, Use It

Mawning sunshines, Happy Monday.

Today I want you remind you that you have a voice and that its in your right to use it. Some of us for to long felt like we didn’t have a voice. Let me remind you that you DO. 

I know what its like to not to use your voice. I was in that predicament for years. Just taking and taking and never ever speaking up. Until one day I did. I took back my voice. I spoke up about everything that hurt me and that no longer benefitted me. So take back your voice and speak up.

Xoxo,

Ebony Monae

ps, 

“never stay quiet when it comes to your life<3”

                                                           -Ebony Monae

 

Write It!

Write your own story. It’s your life. Write it beautifully. Cross out moments you don’t like. Highlight the moments you do like. 

 I inspire you to write it. Your life is a wonderful story that’s waiting to be told. So tell the story. 

Be Amazing, Be Beautiful, Be Vibrant. 

Ebony Monae, 

ps, 

Do what makes your heart beat faster💖

Matters of the Heart

Morning Loves. Happy Tuesday.

So James Arthur who is one of my favorite, favorite artist of all time released a song last Friday. Let me tell you its amazing. I have been following James for a while now. He’s a truly gifted artist. He sings with such emotion it gives me chills. His songs are beautifully written by him and guys let me tell you I am in love. Absolutely in freaking love. Okay I’m done fangirling for now.

It’s been awhile since I have posted a song I like. All I ask is take a moment to listen to this song and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. 

For the love birds out there I hope it makes you think of someone special in your life.  Enjoy.

 

As always Be Amazing, Be Beautiful and Be Vibrant💜

Ebony Monae💜

ps,

“I’m so in love with you,  I hope you know.”